When Tom first married Verna and she came to live in his house, she prepared a meal.
He told her;
“I don’t want you to be the maid. You work all week, you shouldn’t have to cook. Let’s buy T.V. dinners.”
“Oh, it’s alright…” Verna had said shyly.
“No it is not. I feel like I am exploiting you. I can’t even enjoy this meal without a serving of guilt!”
And he got up and left the table.
In truth, he hated her cooking.
But Tom knew what to say, how to say it, or how to be silent to avoid confrontation.