Ghostwriter
Right now, in the United States there is plenty of yelling and very few people are listening. (It is hard to listen when everyone is yelling.) So here there will be no yelling and some helpful tips to make your point.
Make it Impersonal – There may always be some who assume you are referring directly to them. Let that go, you have no control of their perceived guilt. Talk about situations not actions not people. “The driving was unsafe. Cars were moving too fast. Blinkers were not in use. Cars were too close to each other.”
Clearly this all has to do with the driver of the car. That point came across and it never said anything about drivers.
Ask Clarifying Questions
When you feel challenged and begin to feel like yelling is the next best option, instead ask a clarifying question. “Did you disagree with the facts or simply my opinion of the facts?”
Change Your Tone
In order to change your tone, you must recognize how others perceive your tone. You may thing you are speaking with polite authority and they may thing you are a smug know it all. Practice with someone you love and trust.
Work on these three things. Once you get these down, let me know and I ‘ll share some others.
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Do you often find you have to talk louder to make a point?
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Do you consider yourself a good listener?
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Would you like more tips?
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Yes, many people get help!!!
This information could help many people get their point across better
It really depends on the individual with me. If I feel that its a threat to health or me then I tend to raise my tone so that it comes across as a serious issue.
Great writing. I think many friendships and relationships would last if many took this in to consideration.