Maggie Bailey
I don’t know what to do about anything. That is why I am writing this, letting it out, to try and gain some mental clarity. I don’t want to live like this any more; I need to make a change, but don’t know how to do it, what direction to go in. I live by myself in a very small flat, and I want to move, both to get more living space, and for the companionship – I don’t want to live alone any more. I’ve had so many years of it now and it is horribly isolating and depressing. I am also sick of the town I am living in, which is quite grotty, and certainly not somewhere I ever envisaged settling down!
But where do I go? What do I do? I have a job here in Mitcham which is OK, and I don’t want to give that up, just to move somewhere new. If I go to live in another area, I need a job there to support myself anyway, so I can’t really go without that.
I have been thinking of relocating for some time now but don’t know how to go about it, so I am wondering if maybe I should just hang fire for the moment, and leave it up to Fate and destiny. After all, everything changes eventually anyway. Should I maybe stick with the job and the place I am living until I am in the position where I actually have to make a decision on moving? As that time will certainly come at some point, sooner or later. Might it be best to wait, and let the Universe point me in a certain direction, be guided by that? Although it is frustrating and lonely and I feel that my life is just slipping away, it may be the best course of action at present to simply do nothing, since I can’t actually decide what to do.
I have been putting out some tentative feelers anyway, i.e. looking into jobs in other areas. I need to get a job before I can move anywhere else, so I have to start with that. But I don’t really know which area to look at; all I really know is that I am sick of the one I am in. I have started looking for jobs on the South Coast, but then I worry that might be a bit too distant, and that I would have to start all over again with making friends etc. I don’t really know…..Is the devil you know a better option?
Come on, Universe: I need a helping hand here! I need you to show me the next step. Just the next step, please, and then I will take it from there.
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The best thing is that you took the first step. You have to change … I would be moved to some neighborhood, a small little house with a garden, and the job kept
Thank you Branka. That is what I was thinking too; at least keep my present job, but change my accommodation , move to a nicer town, but still near enough to my work. That would definitely improve things, at any rate.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment Danny. Maybe you are right – maybe I really do need to make the change happen myself, rather than just let life drag me in a certain direction. Your answer makes me feel more positive about things.
Hey Maggie, I was in a similar situation..
What worked for is was working at home with online jobs. But that needs some time until you can find something that you’re good at and can earn you enough.
You know, from my experience it is a bad decision to not decide anything, and instead just let life point you a direction. Most times that won’t lead you anywhere you want, because what you want requires action and change.
You see, I was afraid too.. but I finaly understood that I had to take risks you know.. Because the worst thing that could happen to me was continue living a life I did not like, in a place I was not happy, working in a job that had no future. So change has turned into a need and not a matter of choice anymore, I just knew I had to change no matter the price.
But you will have to learn how to live in a more minimalistic way.. because change always have a price, but it’s always worth it! Just don’t let your fear paralyze you, take one step at a time and you will make it!