Ghostwriter
These are four of the most comforting words that have been life changing in my little world. I was burdened by trying to care for and about everyone. It became all consuming and somehow I had it in my head that was the only way to be a “good person”.
Because of some very unfortunate comments directed at me, I had some decisions to make. I had to let go of some things. I had to remember that there are people in this world who simply don’t know how to be civil and I don’t have deal with it. I can make a choice to simply “not care”.
I went to a great seminar where we explored the joy of really not caring about things that used to consume our feelings and thoughts. You take that insult, slur, hurtful words and put it right where it belongs “Right back at you, sister” and then you really stop caring.
People have no more influence over you than you are willing to give them. So thanks for screwing up my life just enough to teach me that I need to make certain to make good decisions about what and who I choose to care about. Life is too short to “care” about hateful people. Help them pack and send them on their way. God Speed.
I remember having a conversation with a friend. I told her I want to be happy first because if I’m not happy myself, I can’t make others happy.
And she responded, “the problem is that now people just care too much about their own happiness.”
I don’t think the “don’t care” attitude is bad … there are some people that really deserves nothing from us … but should that be all the case? I’m not sure… in fact, I’m pretty confuse as to if I’m too “overly concern about my own happiness” aka selfish or I’m just doing it the right amount.
It makes sense that it is all about balance. I am not sure you can care for others if you don’t care for yourself.
Yes… sometimes too much info can be confusing…
And everyone have their own way of dealing with “problems” …
whichever worked for them will be the better solution
Unfortunately, sometimes we do not know for a long time that we have to love ourselves first
That makes perfect sense to me. Thanks for adding to the conversation.