I am an introvert. I like to stay home all of the time, and I’m practically a hermit. I don’t really have any friends I see on a regular basis. I have always been introverted, but not always a hermit. That has only been for the past several years, since I had my first psychotic episode (or spiritual experience, however you want to look at it-it could be both). But to make a very long story short- I fell in love with an extrovert.
Me and my partner have been together for twenty years. It was back in the days when I was very social. I had a lot of friends, and so did he. Our circles converged,and we met. After my episode, I became really reclusive. I was always nervous about leaving the safety of my house. I didn’t want to go out, not even on dates. I didn’t want to see my friends. I didn’t want anyone coming over either.
My partner still is very social. He seems to know everyone in town. When we are out shopping, he’s always stopping to talk to people he knows. He doesn’t go out any longer like we used to, but he does hang out with friends to play games twice a week. I am fine with this. I wouldn’t expect him to stay home with me all the time. That wouldn’t be fair. I know he needs his “down time”.
After twenty years, I still love him. No matter our personality differences.