jaylar
Although we are imbued with the sense that we are brought before our intended’s family as a puppy being adopted from a kennel, it ought really work the other way.
It should not be, ‘are they going to welcome me into their home’, but ‘ Do I want to join that home?’
Too often, so nervous, trying to make a good impression, we come before our intended’s family and miss all the evidence that these are the last people in the world we want to know.
When you are taken to meet your Intended’s family you can babble; “I hope they like me…”
but in let your mind be as analytical as Sherlock Holmes.
Think; “Do I like them? Do I want them part of my life?”
Remember; seeing your intended’s family is looking at your future.
slam the table and demand a DNA test as well. if we live our world on first expressions we will spend our lives sad.
sometimes we have to give people a chance.
uh huh…. like diabetes isn’t genetic and if he comes from a family where every one has it… she don’t need to know. The kids don’t need to know
diabetes I think you meant is genetic, the environment cusses its appearance. There are so many things that a DNA test would do a better job than biased observation can ever do.
Well, the fashion model introduced her intended to her mother who was slender and shapely, not to his father’s family… all fat
Guess what she looks like today?
who cares? is she happy?
He’s not. She’s just undergone extensive liposuction on her legs and back and will be doing another round on her stomach.
He is nice guy but feels as if he were fooled and tricked. It effects the relationship.
But moving from physical, imagine if your beloved comes from a family of hunters and its never come up in conversation. When you meet the family and see all the guns and dead stuffed animals, if you’re a vegan….
i think people are too wound around the rules they live in and around.
I think if you are going to share your life with someone you should know them. Perhaps if you glanced at divorce statistics you will notice how many marriages fail. It is my view that this is because the people don’t know each other. Not really.
ok so i would agree with you that people don’t know each other well now. i would argue that your proposed solution wouldn’t work.
very few are trained for the kind of observations required to do what you are suggesting
none of those trained would ever apply it to themselves.
If you don’t meet the family, how do you know the person in front of you? You have to see the interactions. Rem. if you were raised to be cold and distant or happy and physical….
if you were raised to believe you are what you own or if you were raised to look for the inner person…
it matters.
yes as one of many things to consider but only one.
When you see where someone is coming from you get an insight into their character.
yes and human beings never change –
no.
why would you say something like that? With guidance, help and support anyone can change.
We rise above the failures of the past, we do not always sink into them.