jaylar
With Gabi gone to live with her father, our lives became so much sweeter. It was as if Brad and I had lived at the bottom of the sea with all that pressure and now, were suddenly floating.
We could do what we wanted.
We could eat out during the week or have a dinner party.
We could invite friends over.
Although it might seem peculiar, we could never do these things with Gabi present.
If I suggested eating out she didn’t want to go or go where we had chosen. We couldn’t invite anyone over because she would have one of her tantrums.
Now, with her gone Brad and I and our son were the family. A normal happy, loving family.
Gabi had, by choice, removed herself from it, and I wouldn’t do a thing to change it.
Months passed. When Gabi graduated High School she spent the summer with friends, not with her sad lonely father.When she returned she was off to college far away
There were a few calls a few emails, but mostly silence. It was not shocking nor unexpected for I knew Gabi.
the sadness comes through. on both sides, there is a limit to anger, sadly most humans are willing to push past it.
There are a lot of kids who see their parents as feeding trees. Once they don’t need them..they are gone.
it is very sad but part of life
It is. I know of so many cases where the kid goes away and silence for years. It is like the parents are old shoes
it happens sometimes, it doesn’t others. depends on situations, children and in the end the connection.
there is no blame
You can not rely on your child to fill your life. As a little kid you fill their’s then step back, let them have friends and interests, step back and make their own decisions. When a parent makes a child their whole life the kid may exploit that, sure, but also, the kid is going to want to have their own life, without the parent.
yes I agree with that.