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Phil, once Elsa’s husband and father of her children had remarried a year after he divorced Elsa.
He decided to visit Elsa to let her see what she lost.
Wisely, he demanded Wendy travel with him and his wife. He did this to make sure that Elsa could put no pressure on Wendy to give up her new life to look after Ginny.
Phil knew how well Elsa could whine and twist to make everyone feel guilty and responsible.
But there was no one responsible save Elsa.
Elsa knew that neither her husband nor her children wanted her to have a baby with Down’s syndrome. They told her, loud and clear. They told her, in early pregnancy, that neither her husband nor her other children were going to take any responsibility.
That Elsa had been able to enslave her sister, Wendy, for seven years was not going to be repeated.
Not if if Phil could stop it.
i have a dear friend with down’s syndrome, His smile is amazing. there is much to be learned from those who have a different way of looking at things.
I also know a situation on which this story is based where a woman’s entire family refused to become care givers.
that is very sad, and says a lot about the rest of the family.
In the case I know… similar to the story, the husband and wife had kids, they were grown she was in her forties, surprise pregnancy… told it was Down’s… offered an abortion… refused, and everyone said look, we have our own lives.
She proceeded, everyone migrated, the husband left like a few weeks after the baby was born and they rarely came to visit.
The mother knew that she would be on her own… yet, she pulled his sister in… and in a way I could see the side of the family…
the opportunity to bring a child into the world whose only crime is a chromosome i not only can’t see the family’s side, but I would have been in the room yelling at all of them for their selfishness.
there is a path for all people.
The family told her that she would be on her own. She had the baby. She is on her own. It was her choice.
A person says ‘I can’t cope with….” why be surprised if they can’t cope with….?
It wasn’t a situation where everyone said, ‘we’ll be there’, everyone said they won’t.
And they were and they aren’t.
When you make a choice, you live with it. You can’t demand others do.
In Elsa’s case, they announced in her early pregnancy they would not be there. It was her choice. They are not going to live with it. She can live with it.
as i said I would yell at all of them, First because they are missing out on a wonderful opportunity. One of my dearest friends for many years had downs. He passed nine years ago, but his smile will never leave the world.
we are too wound around the pursuit of perfection to see the value of a smile.
People with Downs require a great deal of care.
people that are not kind require a good deal of care.
People that fall while riding a horse and are paralyzed require a good deal of work.
People that grow old, require a good deal of work.
But now we can simply ship them off to I don’t care island.
In ancient days people wouldn’t know they were bearing a disabled child. Now they know. Now they know before the child is born.
In this case, (based on reality) everyone in her family, told Elsa they would not sacrifice their lives. But Elsa made the decision. So they all left.
Wendy was Elsa’s sister. She was entitled to her own life, wasn’t she?
You make a choices in life. You have no right nor power to force everyone around you to submit to your choice.
The fact is Elsa made her choice.
Phil and Elsa’s children made their own choices. Elsa forced Wendy into a life of obligation, she escaped. Wendy escaped and was having her own life. Elsa is now attempting to destroy Wendy’s life.
That is the key feature.
i will simply say this – in the end, we are all a burden on some time, choosing to not have a child because of a condition is inhuman.
choosing to walk away is inhuman.
There is no excuse, no affiliation for abandoning a human or for that matter a dog, cat or others.
There is no greater gift than love. I applaud the mother in the story she is the only good person there (other than her sister).
There is a bit of surprise coming…. so be ready
that is good to hear – i can get off my soapbox