Too many victims bounce from one abusive relationship to another as if that is what they deserve or that such relationships are ‘normal.’
This is because having been broken, one is breakfast for other abusers.
If one was in an abusive relationship, be it marriage or employment for three years, it will take three years to get it out of your system.
You can’t rush, you can’t dive into another relationship anything like the first, until that period is up.
You can’t take a similar job, until you have fully excreted the past experience.
If you don’t do this, what happens is that you carry the memories with you, buried inside of your soul. The ‘normality’ of being abused taints the next relationship.
By taking the time to analyse, to see how it happened, you prevent it from happening again.