It is very important to see how an Abuser gets inside of your head. How he can make you believe you are damaged or need help.
They adopt this superior calming voice, these words to make you believe you were abused or hated or unwanted by your parents, sibling, whomever.
There are cases in which the Abused actually believes something happened to them that never did.
The Abuser finds the person the Victim most admires, be it mother/ father/sister/brother and makes the Victim believe that person did something to them.
Abusers are so skilled at creating false memories that if you can prove that something did not happen, could not have happened, the Victim might go into pause mode, then reboot, and reassert the impossible act.
For the Abuser has gotten inside the head of the victim.