You need to see how you were manipulated, how you dealt with it at the time, so that it doesn’t happen again.
You don’t walk around with this chip on your shoulder suspecting everyone, because if you analyse the relationship carefully, you’ll see the difference between Abuse and other actions.
Not everyone is an abuser. Not every confrontation devolves into violence.
As in the early story, Ann had not examined the Abuse to the extent she could appreciate that her husband’s expression of ‘jealousy’ was the opportunity to beat her.
If she had, she would not have destroyed a perfectly good relationship by misinterpreting another’s warning as the flag of jealousy.
This is why you analyse.