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Askholes, how to deal with them?

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My friends all love to have long and deep conversations. So we often have phone conversations for hours, but of course there are times we just have very shorts ones.

However, recently I’ve realized that I’ve a friend who is what some would call an “Ask-hole” (definition is above). She practically ask for “advises” but usually with the hope of you agreeing with her or not doing anything at all. But I can’t agree with her about everything, so there are times whereby I just state a different point of view or simply to stop the topic and move on. But I realized that she has been trying very hard to come and “Boast” about her little “achievements” that “proves her right”.

Which made me think, is the new definition of Ask-hole this: A person who constantly asks for your advice yet always does the opposite and then try every way to prove you wrong?

I used to crack my brain to help her and try coming up with something but I learn to “patronise” her whenever she wants advises now. Like if she told me she can’t decide to get an android or IOS, I’ll tell her something very general. That doesn’t really point to anything. Anyway, sometimes she would end up saying, “But a phone is so expensive. Maybe I don’t get it. Right?”

But because I’ve been very bad with human relation/interaction, it got me thinking, “Hmm, is it me being too sensitive about people not really caring about my advises?”

These does put a little strain on our relationship and she seems to flip-flop a lot with her decision and actions and then there are times which I really want to say, “I warn you about that, right?” But think it might be a little mean and a little too full of myself, so I didn’t.

Have you met with people like this? How do you deal with them?

  • Question of

    Have you deal with an Askhole?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    How do you deal with them?

    • Try to convince them
    • My advise are better off with somebody else
    • Depends
  • Question of

    Are you hurt when you advises are all ignored?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Have you gotten your advises totally ignored?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Are you affected when you advises are all ignored?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Depends
  • Question of

    Do you give advises when asked?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Depends
  • Question of

    Does someone try to “prove you wrong” before?

    • Yes
    • No

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Written by alibb

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