Maria Ayala
(Photos courtesy of Narcissistic Healing…)
A narcissistic sociopath can hide. They do it well. They actually manipulate others into doing as they wish. They will tell stories about their target, and make up lies, in order to confuse others, into joining them in the bullying.
It doesn’t matter if you are a good person. If the sociopath sees you as their target, they will go to any ends, by any means to hurt you.
So if that means, that someone will purposely mispronounce your name, they will tell others to do it, in the hopes of publicly humiliating you.
This is how they hide their disdain for you, by convincing others to do their biding. They will hide their hate for you, because they know that once their true intentions are exposed, they will suffer the consequences.
No one deserves to be victimized by these sociopaths, masquerading as regular human beings. If you think someone is trying to be nosy about you, they probably are.
You know something is off, when others start to be very curious about you. When they ask nosy questions, like, did you leave town for Thanksgiving?
If someone that you normally don’t talk you, asks you this question, you have reason to suspect. If someone asks you if you are still young enough to have periods, know that they are intentionally calling you old, in an indirect way.
A narcissist will tell their buddies to compliment you, at first. They will do this in order to get you to drop your guard. For example, if they compliment your appearance, and then act completely different after that, know that once they get you to drop your guard, they reveal their fake selves soon after.
You don’t have to put up with a sociopath. It can be anyone, even your nurse. Once you know how they operate, you gain the right perspective, and are able to clearly see the shadows in which the sociopath likes to hide. Once they know you are onto them, you have removed all the power they thought they had.
Another powerful message here that everyone should read. I have had friends who were under the “spell” of a bully like you speak of and they were not even aware and then had no idea how to change. I helped her eventually get away and get her life back.
Yes, there is always a ring leader in these situations. That ring leader, or queen bee, (like in the movie Mean Girls), recruits all the people that admire said ring leader for being so cruel and heartless. That’s the secret reason why they do as they are told by the ring leader. They are too much of a coward to act alone, so they feel supported by the ring leader, like they are getting special permission.