Brad was uncertain about my priorities so I arranged a casual encounter with my daughter. There was a function at work to which I virtually dragged Gabi.
I introduced her to everyone, including Brad, so that he’d be one of many, no ‘target’ on his back. As there were a lot of kids her age present they could annoy each other, leaving the grown ups to talk.
A lot of parents were; “Stevie!” “Jessica, don’t!” “Tony, stop!” I was not. I ignored Gabi.
When Brad saw how I focused on him, not Gabi he gained some confidence.
Over the next months I spent a lot of time with him. We often went out to dinner. To Normalise I brought Gabi on occasion.
She behaved fairly well. Brad took as much interest in her as she did him, so there was a toleration.
As Gabi was so self involved she had no idea that the relationship between Brad and I was serious. I had, to add to the subterfuge, also taken her to dinner when I met with other co-workers.
She assumed Brad was just a guy from work. I kept the conversation on work, not on her, not on us while she spent most of the time on her cell phone. I said nothing to her about it, although another mother might mention the rudeness.