Let it All Go
Until you let it all go, that person still controls you.I can think of people who talk about their Ex as if the ink hasn’t dried on the Divorce Decree when it was Granted a quarter of a century ago.This person is not Divorced. This person is still waiting for the EX to come HOME.Hence this is not a real Ex. This person has never moved on. Never stopped being the spouse of the other other, despite the intervening years and the intervening relationship the Other has.
This is the biggest mistake you can make.
You must move on, even if it means meaningless relationships, even if it means travel, whatever it is, MOVE ON with your life.