NEVER GIVE AN ABUSER A SECOND CHANCE – 6

Abusers never change.  Their actions are designed to hurt their victims.

Once one appreciates that the life of an abuser is not focused on his pleasure or advancement but to hurt others, regardless of the price to himself,  the clarity provides some safety.

Norman is a text book abuser.   As Sara had to be in his city to complete a necessary transaction, he suddenly found himself having the ‘power’ he lost forty years ago when she walked out on him.

Not thinking of the reflection on himself, of his own comfort, he booked a flight for her at 2 am.  That he would have to rise at 4 am to reach the airport to collect her was not considered.   Her discomfort was all that mattered.

So focused on making her uncomfortable, he never imagined she would nap, she could sleep on the plane.   What he imagined is that she’d arrive weak, miserable, angry at him for booking a flight at such an outlandish time.

He would then have the ‘handle’.    He could then ‘retaliate’ to her reaction.

As Sara knew his nature she was not going to give him that ‘handle’.