Sara, during her years with Norman, learned to be deceptive. She knew he would deny her what she wanted, so would often chose the other option.
She would prepare ‘speeches’ so as to enable her to get what she wanted, practicing her tone of voice to sound bored.
When she left him it took years for her to become honest, to stop adjusting her views to match those around her.
Dale, while working for the Boss from Hell, would steal. She would steal little objects, yes, but it was stealing. Instead of plunging into work, she would waste time, she would clock watch. She would create a time ‘budget’ so that she worked no more than four hours for eight hours pay. Mixed into her actual work was unwork, sneaking files into the wrong drawer, redoing already completed documents; horrible traits she never would have imagined that she would develop.
This is why you run as soon as you can, and never return. It is to prevent you from becoming what the Abuser has tried to make you.