As an abuser, Norman is controlled by his need to hurt others. This overwhelms the basic need of self preservation.
Normal people chose what is most comfortable and convenient. When they have choices, their choices are made based on what they desire. An abuser does not think of his own comfort, he thinks of the discomfort he can cause another person.
The last night, when she was booked on a flight that left at 6 am Sara thought to go to bed early.
Norman, a ‘text book’ abuser disrupted her sleep by running a paper shredder after 10 pm.
Shehad to put the sheet over her head and press her lips together to not burst out laughing. He was driving her to the air port.
He was disrupting his own sleep!
In the morning, she was in incredibly good spirits.
She assumed her attitude was annoying him, but couldn’t care less. She gave him a brilliant smile when she entered the departure lounge.
On the plane going home, her business completed, she felt more than victorious.