It’s quite a statement isn’t it! My Mom often used these words often. She always followed it by some very wise words that I often return to her words in my darkest hours.
So what is the reason for apologizing to someone? My Mom would contend it has very little to do with the person you are apologing to. It is about recognizing that you have to fix “your” heart and learn to forgive. Eventually, forginess becomes instant because you have practiced it for so long you know that holding a grudge only eats at your soul.
If you owe someone an apology, do yourself a favor. Give it to them and free your heart and spirit. The only one you are truly hurting by hanging on to it is yourself .
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Question of
Do you have someone you should apologize to?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Do you believe my Mom was right?
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Yes
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No
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I do not find it difficult to apology someone. More difficult is to keep bad feelings in heart, it’s a truly heaviness.
Yes, if we feel an apology is due, the sooner it is given, the better.
Sometimes it is very difficult to give an apology to someone. That person has hurt you so badly, and in so many ways that you don’t want to forgive them. Yes, it happens.
It is very true it is about fixing your heart when you apologize. I find, however, that there is a line. I will not apologize to a person that calls me names or insults me. I will do my best to ignore that person forever.
So I guess I believe there are lines. If you resort to name-calling (stupid, or “the likes of you.” then it becomes that person problem, not mine.
Oh I agree. I tend to try and avoid the need, but it sometime happens. My temper flares.
its funny. I understand losing your temper. It happens. But once you go down the path of saying things that have to be unsaid, you own the apology!