Meeting some friends during high school is a fun moment. What we usually do at such meetings is to exchange news and stories about various things. Amongst all of us who gathered back this afternoon only I was the least present. One of my friends who never met after decades of teasing me with style was surprised and laughing, he said “Why do you look so old? Why don’t you dye your hair?”
“To look old and wise like this I need decades, then why should I change it?”, I said, replying to his joke. “Ah… you’re not trendy, bro!”. Then for a while, I was the subject of discussion between those who were both defending and those who were mocking. During jokes and laughter at the beginning of the meeting, the trend in many ways became the main topic.
The joking talk has indeed given a lot of humor, and especially to me, the funniest thing that is most strange is the tendency of people to impose a general pattern, where everyone must follow trends in all aspects of life, including to look like a true believer.
I see around me that nowadays most people feel proud because of various trends; religion, politics, lifestyle, entertainment, appearance to slang, etc. They forget, that many things they measure and force everyone to follow with certain great expectations are not reality but utopia, let alone some trends without meaning. And the value of spirituality is not its utopia, religion, prophet, holy book, or teacher, but on daily attitudes, behavior and actions, which are real manifestations of values and especially their inner brightness.
I don’t feel the need to appear like a saint and obedient person, but also don’t feel the need to behave poor to considered modest and simple. Simplicity is sincerity that doesn’t need to be exhibited. Spiritual is something that is intimate and unites with our surroundings and daily life. Become part of the breath and live every second consciously. Spiritual is just like a farmer who cultivates land, chooses good seeds, sows on land that has properly cultivated, fertilized, watered, cared for with patience, sincerity, and love until later he will reap the results.
The best spiritual will only foster good potential in a person. What we do, is a reflection of our inner. So, I don’t feel the need to follow the trend for dye my hair as I also do not want to follow the trend of dengue fever that is endemic.
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Do you always follow the trend?
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Q: Do you always follow the trend?
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I do not care about trends, nor do I allow anyone to force me. I live and do what I like.
You are a woman with a strong principle, dear friend.
We have to be. Occasionally we have to fight and stand for ourselves ?
Wow! That’s great! I love it! ?
When I was young, I followed the trend very well now, it’s been a long time after me
Ha! Of course when we are young. But not all trends, right?
I can still consider some of the trends, but I just have to think a bit about who they are
I really agree with you, dear friend.
I guess we’re so used to the “merit system” that you get reward from acceptance and of course talent and hardwork.
For me, I sometimes sway too much in between and that kinda sucks lol.
I was thinking hard… What is the connection between the merit system and coercion like dye hair and religious dress? lol
But I agree that we must continue to be observant in choosing which trends need to be followed and those that don’t.
I guess I perhaps use the wrong example, Perhaps its more of a reward system.
What I’m trying to do is linking “reward”/acceptance with things you do and how you act/present yourself.
You get “rewarded” for looking younger – which is why people dye hair… same goes for why people “chase” the fashion trend – aren’t those compliments a kind of “reward”?
To me, society work in the way that you only ‘earn’ acceptance from being “the same” … or following their rules?
Simple question. Simple answer. No.
And I am glad you are being yourself my friend.
Never had a doubt. 🙂
That is wise, Carol.
I myself have a simple reason, there are too many imitation products around us, why should I also be one of them?
I do what I like about myself. Whether I like it, I do not care. I do not excite others’ opinion about me.
I can recognize the authenticity of your attitude, dear friend Ellenka, and that is what I like about you.
Do you always follow trends-
What a wonderful question Albert. It brings so many more questions.
What trend and who started it? If it is a trend to fashion, most likely I don’t follow it. But if one of the people I treasure suggests a technology, I may.
I ask the old journalism questions…
Who, what, when, where, and of why.
Why is the ultimate question for me when it comes to trends. Why drives what I do and how I do it.
All of these considerations show a person’s maturity and wisdom in being; whether it’s just being carried away or choosing consciously.
Because trends do occur in all aspects of life, whether interconnected or separate, then as you have said, we always need to question them first before deciding to go with the flow or stay outside. And indeed, “Why” is a keyword to see further consideration as I have described a little in the post some time ago.
One of the arguments my twins have been hitting me with lately is that everyone has bias.
I let that float around for a couple of weeks before reminding them that yes, everyone has a bias. The reality of bias is when you add experience.
Bias is an influencer in our lives.
Experience is, however, also a driver.
Bias + experience allows you to select the painful option because you know it is the right option.
I agree about the bias consider that every point of view must give a different vision as well as there has never been an exact same experience from person to person even in the same situation or event. Of course, it will show options that can also be different, and for sure that will influence choice.
yes.
That is why I keep telling the twins Bias is normal, bias+experience is something you earn!
And that means that it is our right to determine whether we are willing to follow a trend or not, and also to refuse coercion to follow general or majority thinking, right?
yup!
We can choose and succeed. Or choose and fail the choice is always our own.
Of course, because each choice has its own risks and consequences.
I do not believe in speaking in a politically correct tone since as far I am concerned as long as my belief system I do my best to do what is right even though many kids today do not understand slapstick comedy like the Three Stooges brand of eye pokes, slaps in the face and words that are creative to use like one joke I could make of artist and I use the term loosely Carbi Bee which would when she is seen without her makeup “How much do you charge to haunt a house on Halloween?”
Many people do not understand or realize that in certain conditions the choice not to go with the stream or to move out of the flow is more likely to allow opportunities and advantages, especially with the kindness and creativity you have.
I see your point that I prefer to be kind and gentle instead of flowing with the crowd on some issues.
Yes, you are right, and so you are in my eyes.
Thank you since I try to live on what is truth.
You are a person with a strong principle, Dee.
Thank you Albert for the kind comments.
You are most welcome, Dee.
I do things that are worth doing, regardless if they are popular or not…
Therein lies the maturity of a person, when they choose something worth and appropriate rather than just following the mainstream or the flow in order they appears to fit the contemporary look of most people.
it helps that I never really fit in, so peer pressure wasn’t something I had to deal with in the first place…