After being a user of Virily for a certain time, becoming a friend of many people who often changed, who came and left, I could not count how many comments I had written, how many thousands of words I had said, those things sometimes made me ask myself, have I ever hurt someone’s feelings here?
I am a person who likes to joke, likes to long chat, occasionally questioning a reply that I lacking understand the point, straighten the point that I conveyed that I fear has been misunderstood, and the worst is probably giving “advice” without being asked, with almost all writing which smelt of smart ass. A few hours ago, I also joked with HarpingByAPixie while talking about a compliment which could be misunderstood as an insult. HarpingByAPixie was one of my very pleasant long-time chat friends besides Beada Beada, Carol DM, Alex Ledante, Zaklina Maca Miljkovic, Kim_Johnson, LaJenna, Doc Andersen, Deepizzaguy, Alibb, Tasartcraft, and others.
I am sure that most of the friends here are very understanding of differences, full of tolerance and very appreciative, but still, we are all human beings with various strengths and weaknesses, who can really understand one thing but cannot accept anything else. Moreover, with the language we use here, which is generally not a mother tongue, we may have used one or several inappropriate words that can hurt other people’s feelings. Realizing that, I really hope that if someone among you, anyone who has ever felt offended, hurt or is unable to accept my words in any form; jokes, opinions, suggestions, or whatever, willing to give me feedback.
The nail on the wood could have been removed, but the hole would still be left there. I could apologize and perhaps you had or would be willing to forgive, but the wound might make an impression. for that, even though there are injuries that I have made in your heart, still I feel the need to apologize to you.
Virily is the fourth platform from a similar site where I am a member. I just want to build friendships, and together with you all promote this community to be better known, more attractive outside, more recognized and considered by big media like Google and others.
So, once again, I beg you for feedback and input that might improve the way I get along and play in this community. Thank you all.
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Question of
Have I ever insulted, hurt, or offended you?
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Yes
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No
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Would you please give me feedback and input?
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Yes
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No
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I’ve never been insulted by you and I see no reason to insult you. I always loved your posts and your way of thinking, I hope to read many more posts from you ?.
Oh… I’m grateful for your explanation. But your compliments have made me drunk and blushing my cheeks. Thank you, dear friend.
There’s no reason to blush, they are well deserved ?.
Users voted 11 times.
Q: Have I ever insulted, hurt, or offended you?
Yes (1 votes) – 8%
No (11 votes) – 92%
Q: Would you please give me feedback and input?
Yes (8 votes) – 80%
No (2 votes) – 20%
Which one I could offend you … a very good man, a good heart, and a great friend … I can not even think that anyone can offend you … from what I know you always help me with any thing, and that’s why I am grateful my dearest friend
Maybe you and others cannot offend me but who knows I accidentally offended someone? or even a good friend like you?
You’re just too good to offend someone … if you’re not sure it’s intended … you can not offend me … I really know this very well and I take every thing for a joke my dear friend
Such certainty is a great relief, dear friend. Thank you very much for your amazing appreciation, dear amazing friend.
To such a person as you simply need to be respectful and kind … I’m very happy to know you … although only remotely dear Albert
I will soon sleep well in your kind words, dear friend.
I want you a peaceful night and a sweet sleep my friend
Okay, I’ll sleep for about two hours, and hopefully meet you in a dream…
You really are a real master … are you going to sleep for 2 hours?
Yep, yesterday I did sleep well for two hours and in a few moments after our conversation. Not because I am a master but for I am used to it.
You have never offended me, and If something concerned me that you said to me I would ask you to explain. Your personality is one of helping your fellow man, not harming him. I might joke around about giving you a poor grade, but you always deserve an A****** so never worry about me. Thank you for the mention teacher!
Also the photo looks like artwork of some strange kind. Unique but has many messages within it.
I even feel relieved and happy to hear this from you even though we have a good mutual understanding here, of course besides with a healthy joke for me, and hopefully for you too, O teacher.
Thank you also for your appreciation for the photo, LaJenna.
I suspect you and I are on a similar quest to make things better. That said I will tell you if you offend me. I will always let you know when you make me laugh.
But I do understand that need to make sure we aren’t offending. I did not publish the Virily influencers list after I finished the initial data collection. I knew the reaction wouldn’t be good or bad, just that people’s feelings would get hurt.
You have my pledge if you often I will let you know.
If you make me laugh, well I already do tell you when you make me laugh.
If you make me think I already tell you that as well.
I think we have to do many ways to make this site more fun, both personally and collectively. So I think, personally, I need to do self-introspection either through reflection or by asking for feedback and input.
I am glad you have done your part to raise Virily, not because my name has been plugged in there but because it is indeed beneficial for all of us. And because you have done your part, then I also need to do my part.
We know that perhaps 95% (only estimates) of all comments here are positive but that tendency sometimes makes us less open to saying real opinions, or comments that are contextual after we read an article well, not perfunctory as you indicated in your previous post.
Hey, I’m happy with all your feedback so far, so it doesn’t matter if you also remind me or give input on my discordant tone. Thanks, Doc!
Plus you have poked the pixie – I love that!
Oh… That Pixie, I’ve been sending spirits to haunt her for a long time, and it seems like she never feels bothered by that.
No she just sprinkles dust on your post and it disappears. The pixie and I have been chasing each other on writing platforms for many years now.
I really see your closeness with her so far. She’s a great friend.
A great friend??? Big LOL! A friend I am but no great. I can take insults though and return it gladly with magic dusts and all ??
Just this once you succeeded in insulting me. Excuse me, Sir Albert Herdianto Widjojo, but I am not your secretary nor a flower ????. And I am rolling my eyes with a big smirk. ?
You said I am a friend but you love that someone poked me! Where is the love in that? ??? Now, I will wish that the twins humor you more about the upside-down photos and dad jokes ???.
Kidding aside, I have always treasured you and Carol Taylor as the gems I found in Niume making me believe that good people are present even in virtual world. I enjoyed exchanging feisty comments with you two in every platform. ??
Are you boiling water to make me a cup of coffee? Apparently, the water has boiled… Really, I love made by a Lady Cerewet with full of spirit… Please don’t forget to poke the coffee evenly.
I am a chameleon that automatically adapts to delicate and beautiful flowers, or fairy in disguise.
You have climbed the wrong tree. I was on a flowering plant as Carol’s friend as you mentioned and looked at the emoticons to adapt to a fairy who behave as Pixie.
Damn. Which joke is that you are referring to that I must take as insult? Do tell so I can feign being insulted ?. You are an smartass. But I like smartass people. They make good match for word-fencing.
I answered yes and no to question 1 and 2. Why? Because that is the way I want to answer the questions ???. Now you can feign being offended ???.
Let me say this. Things happened the way they are supposed to happen. No accident. That said, I am surprised to find the pixie in this article. Long-time chat friend? You call it chat, I call it bantering. So you are my banter-brotha ??
Geez! I am always glad if there are fairies who try to mess up my cake of pleasure cake so that I can learn sincerely to share. Dear soul sister, You have indeed inspired me to try to receive feedback after we joke at each other on my last post in the reflection challenge.
Did you know that I jumped happily when I read 1 yes for the first question in order there are people who doubt my credibility, and hopefully, they don’t read this conversation.
Hey! We have indeed agreed on “there is no coincidence”, also if you prefer to make fun of me!
Well, the only credibility I doubt about you is your credibility to piss me off that would make me write you off in my existence. Lol!
The answers to the questions were a combination of honesty and shenanigans. By now, you know which is which. Sadly, it will take you a long time to really annoy me. Maybe you should stop being an smartass then prolly I will get bored and leave your posts be. ??
It seems that I have to read again the book of Revelation that I have left for a long time to find out if someone like me is quite credible, smart enough or just smartass. I think there is also mention about honesty and shenanigans.
It seems to me you already read it before replying this one. And apparently you found a weakness in the book of Revelation. No worries, not enough to ruffle my feathers. One of the important lessons of 2018, my dearest brother, is finding out I can be domesticated. Lol! Not quite me, but I survived. Just don’t refer me as flower or cookie coz that is just ugh! and unforgiveable. ?
Nope! I don’t even know if Revelation is part of the Old or New Testament gospel. But don’t forget that there is a part of The Supreme Knower in me.
I said I will not give you any comment but here I am commenting…. . ?
I am trying hard to understand your mystery this time, while still thanking you. lol
hahaha… isn’t it nice to be mysterious sometimes. it is nice to be back again.
It’s always fun to see friends who come back…
phew… too much work to finish still but my squeezing time is a bit lax at this time.
Some folks are too easily offended, or are too thin skinned. Anyone who knows you already knows that you wouldn’t try to hurt someone’s feelings intentionally. If you worry about being misunderstood then you won’t say anything at all…
I am sure Albert will buy you a beer for this sweet compliment ???. Should I apologize too for annoying you like a kid brother? ?
Dear Pixie, do you know that Alex prefers hot miso than a beer?
Duh! How would I know when I don’t bother to ask you two? The only thing I bothered myself with is to annoy both of you in different degree. I don’t worry about your reaction. Sometimes I pause with Alex but throw my comments just the same thinking he is a man and could handle some quirks ???. I do have gender bias a bit. With women, I apply something sweet. With men, I am more like “waddaheck!” ??? Really, I do wonder how my two real brothers ever live with a sister like me. When we are together, the two just laugh at my antics. I guess, it is both a boon and a bane (which is greater between the two I really don’t care ?) to have a pixie sister.
O, dear Pixie, I think you can bother us anytime and we will always be fine, we will even serve and take care of you like an ancient jar in the museum.
I prefer beer to miso soup every day of the week, but if I am coming down with a cold then I want hot sake and miso soup. But we love our wacky pixie sister dearly
Can’t you lie a little to support me?
Ahhh see, there is a reason younger brothers are the best. Thanks, Alex, but referring me as antique will not bother me at the least. My age (or weight, for that matter) is something I am proud of because I am aging with grace. Lol! So our dear Albert here failed to achieve his goal. Let me fetch you a miso ???.
No can-do, siree. He cannot lie and you cannot have your coffee. Ancient is good. Cerewet is good. And I can actually live up to that expectation. LOL! But now I see that you are a genuine Gemini ?
Because I know that everything I have mentioned is in accordance with your expectations so I say it all seriously, not joking.
I don’t even know if I’m Gemini because there are always exceptions in life. Unless you have authentic evidence to support your statement.
sorry my brother, but I can’t lie about beer
Then I have to admit defeat and surrender.
Thank you that my brother understood me well. I really appreciate it. Especially because you are one of my friends of long conversations.
that you are concerned for the feelings of others speaks to your character, but you can’t live your life trying not to offend anyone, this is impossible and futile besides…
Yep… I understand that brother, but I prefer if I know someone who is offended by me. I’ve learned a lot from my overly quiet attitude in the past which often invited misunderstandings and fights because they had mistakenly considered me an arrogant and pretentious ass.
When someone gets the wrong impression, how is it your fault? You can’t correct a mistake you aren’t aware of…
Indeed, those who have problems are those who get the wrong impression, but I would prefer it to be expressed rather than become hidden anger or hatred.
Again, you demonstrate your character by your willingness to avoid needless conflict. My point is that when someone gets the wrong impression, you can’t be held accountable. You can still take steps to correct that error, but it isn’t your responsibility…
If everyone had ever had the wrong impression about me acting like you, they certainly would not feel the need to challenge me to fight until I had to deal with the police many times.
Just remember; there is no such thing as a permanent record
I think we all know you and your personality and would not expect anything less than your wonderful sense of humor. Nice photo, reminds me of my Grandpa’s barn.
Awh! It was a very encouraging appreciation, Carol dear friend. Thanks for the appreciation for the photo too.
My dear friend, I am very similar to you. I like to joke, so I understand the joke, I talk a lot (if it allows me), I like to accept some advice, opinion, because we are learning our whole life, etc. I’m happy to read your comments.
Oh, Vidocka my dear friend, you are one of my closest best friends here too… See… I even forget to mention your name too… Uhhh… My apology for that!
Yes, We love to learn each other here and support each other as well. Thank you so so so much…
Oh, Albert. Do not bother with this little bit because you did not mention my name. I understand that our heads are too small for all things. ? The apology was accepted although it would not be necessary ?
Your wisdom relieves my heart, Vidocka. Thank you so much.
Geez, I even forgot about Lado, my another long chat friend! Forgive me if I don’t say your name, O dear friend.
Also, whoever of you who feels like my best chatting friend, forgive me if you do not mention your name in this article.