Albert Herdianto Widjojo
The picture above is not a good or beautiful picture as befits people want to take a picture or see a photo indeed. I took the picture only because I was interested in seeing the shape of the shadow that was “different” from the subject that formed it.
If we consider it to be a phenomenon, then it might represent many other phenomena, for example about how we see someone’s appearance and the image we see that is associated with that aspect.
People can judge me as arrogant and don’t want to get along or be choosy just because I’m quiet and awkward, and that often happens. Even in the past, there were some school friends who had challenged me to fight for that reason. Conversely, a person who looks wise may turn out to be a liar. Then, what is the best way to see something or someone in truth?
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Have you ever misjudged someone else?
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Have you ever been fooled by other people’s appearance?
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Well, I misjudged someone yesterday. the fire alarm went off in the library and we all went outside and I watched a man with a huge smile that looked very officious and self important.
This fire alarm was only a drill and we all went back into the library again and as I got to the desk the very man served me and was very welcoming and friendly
Yes, I misjudged him as my husband did and he was a wonderful person
So I am pleased to say, that in this case I was wrong
Reading your comments I feel very proud to have friends like you who dare to admit mistakes! That’s very important, and not everyone can do it. You are amazing, Pamela.
Well, had to learn the hard way that I am only human not more or less
Well, realize that is an important attitude in life.
Users voted 11 times.
Q: HAVE YOU EVER MISJUDGED SOMEONE ELSE?
Yes (8 votes) – 73%
No (3 votes) – 27%
Q: HAVE YOU EVER BEEN FOOLED BY OTHER PEOPLE’S APPEARANCE?
Yes (8 votes) – 73%
No (3 votes) – 27%
A profoundly interesting topic. This will be a great topic at a live talk show. Imagine that.
A live talk show on this issue will definitely be very interesting.
You can certainly be a suitable speaker for this program.
The reality of those who judge is all around us. I try so hard not to judge or to leap to conclusions. I do not know the pain of your day. But the other side is, of course, true, you don’t know the pain of my day.
Many find it easier to judge others than deal with their own failings.
The fact that we only know each other through this media, and of course it is not possible for me to judge you in any way except that we appreciate each other upon the words we write, so, yes, we both don’t know how painful our respective days are. So, and the best thing we can do is support and encourage each other.
The difficulty to see our weaknesses and failures is part of the ego that we have built since childhood, and judge or blame others is one of the shields that is considered great.
Sometimes the extended hand is offering help!
‘The difficulty to see our weaknesses and failures is part of the ego that we have built since childhood, and judge or blame others is one of the shields that is considered great.”
Well said Albert, well said!
The joke we used to say in the training team when we smell the attitude and the words that judge and blame others is “Remember, the scapegoat has been roasted!”
that is a good one. I always say “true colors are often revealed when people think no one else can see.”
Someone like you must be able to see such a true color.
i put my nice person hat on first and let things play out. I have been wrong many times on the actual color of the persons intent.
Maybe the sound of your mind sounds louder than the sound of your intuition…?
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that I was raised that all deserve one shot.
No one gets a second shot for free, but all deserve the first shot free.
I laughed reading that because it sounded like an advertiser’s paradigm.?
it does in fact sound like an advertiser’s statement…
All your pictures are very interesting and something special, dear Albert … I usually recognize people quickly … who is a sincere and true friend … well I didn’t make much mistake here
Thanks for your compliment, dear Lado.
Your simplicity and sincerity is a great software to recognize others, dear friend.
What can I say other than thank you very much, my dear friend … I always try to be honest and simple person and I like people like myself … like you and a few others here … not everyone
Well, we are with our unique character, certainly can not match all people, dear friend.
Exactly … I totally agree with you, dear Albert
I am very slow to judge people and form friendships. I take my time, I may seem like someone who is arrogant by the truth is I am shy so I am careful with the friends I make.
Shy people like us are often the object of wrong judgment, but we can’t blame them either because that’s the measure they have to judge us.
Yes , misjudged twice and i WAS WRONG
Your honesty is your image that should be emulated by many people.
I try not to do those things but to be honest It happens occasionally then I end up scolding myself.
Judging is everyone’s tendency because we have learned it since we were toddlers, but over time it will ask wise people not to do it by building on and sticking to true principles. I think you are such kind of person too.
This brings to mind, if one could only see other’s souls would they judge other’s so harshly? Lovely post.
If someone could see the soul of another person, they certainly would never misjudge.
Whoever does not understand and accept the differences between himself and others will always judge! He is always ok, the others are not! To judge is much easier than to understand. I have been misjudged several times!
Btw. Is it a motorcycle in your picture? I saw something similar on the street today.
Yep! Not understanding and accepting differences is a major part of misjudge.
Yes, this is a motorcycle with a box on the back.
I have not answered those questions as what I felt was that I am being misjudged. Once people know me then it is a different story.
The problem with most people is to judge other people even who they don’t know, or have only met for a while.
I have noticed it mostly in the virtual world.
In the virtual world that behavior is very widespread, but in real reality, the phenomenon is also not less numerous.
There is also this thing in the real world putting people in grooves.
There are so many virtuous people on Earth, and I’m sure you are one of them!
I am called a newbie here despite having written 323 posts and with virils of 84 thousand plus. No doubt this is my fifth month (lol)
My online writing experience goes back to 2009 having written for countless sites.
And then there is that groove we are put in – those who are not native speakers of English little do they know many non native speakers write far better than those who boast of being native speakers.
Who called a newbie? Well, we can be called as a newbie in a certain place but in fact, it could be that many people here have written millions of words and sentences everywhere.
Never mind who said that (lol) I came here pretty late but not without experience.
I think that reality is everywhere. Not everyone in my country is good at Indonesian. Not everyone who is able to converse well in my language can write well. But, we generally assume that those who are not native speakers must have a lower quality than us as native speakers, right?
Then, who is to blame? ?
Hahaha…
India belonged to the British Raj and that explains why Indians have a good grounding.
Well, you can think of it as just being called a new comer, an understanding part of the definition of a newbie.
Yes, I know that historically, India was closely related to the British, so the use of English was relatively basic there, while we were colonized by the Dutch for three and a half centuries and only those who had attended Dutch schools generally mastered the language.
I can see that from your writings.
What can you see from my writing? The influence of the Dutch language??
Far better than most around here.
To be honest, I don’t speak Dutch at all, but my father and mother.
I have a good feeling about people. Usually at the first meeting I really appreciate the person. Of course, only in my mind. I only give my opinion when I know the person well. My feeling can be deceiving me too ?
You are another wise person I know here! Indeed, feelings are often prejudiced.
Thanks for the compliment. A lot of wisdom has taught me life. This is the best teacher.
You’re welcome, dear friend.
Yes, Life wisdom is our best teacher indeed.
I have always been very slow to judge anyone. I was always the quiet one at the back of the room, observing. Still am many times. We should never ever judge anyone.
I was still typing when the comment posted… I wanted to say, we would never judge others, until we have walked a mile in the other person’s shoes.
That is the principle that we should uphold. Indeed, it’s easier to see what looks from the outside than the contents, especially the core inside.
You are wise, in fact, it is very difficult to judge anyone for even we do not know ourselves fully.