Branka Drobnjak
They were still trained to be good girls. Such upbringing has created a habit that even when, for example, we take a strong position or heartily defend ourselves, we are constantly apologizing for the others expecting from us. I tell you, there is no reason to apologize, “says Noel Nelson, psychiatrist and author of the book Winner Takes All. To say “I’m sorry” when you accidentally hit your own hat is perfectly fine.
Whether you’re suddenly interrupting a massage that has become unpleasant, directing your hairdresser, or showering for a long time without any special reason, know that you can simply give yourself a shower and do exactly what you want without the feeling that you should apologize to someone.
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For that reason you are right, but there is a courtesy of our culture that uses “I’m sorry” or ‘We’re sorry” as a humble expression, in addition to “Please” and “Thank you” or “Excuse me” by still not disturbing self-confidence.
As part of kindness is fine, there is not a single disturbing self-confidence.
I’m sorry if I gave a response like that.
you have a good answer. There is no need for “I’m sorry”
Hahahahhahahahah…
I’m sorry….
I must also agree with Pamela. Being confidently well mannered is the order, the opposite effect often stems from a low self esteem. Unless we have unjustly created an offense, No! we do not have to say ‘I’m sorry’. Great post!!
I agree with you, the main point of this post is exactly what you said
Its nice to be with someone you don’t have to apologise for something every 5 mins. I don’t think anyone would have to continually apologise. Only for something to apologise for.
However, I believe in general manners, saying “Please” and “Thank you”.
Or even “Excuse me”.
Bringing children to have confidence is really important but also I feel consideration for others is essential. Really just common manners. Not a lot is taught to some people and it isn’t entirely their fight.
your answer Pamela is the best for me, I fully agree with that
Always say sorry as say thank you!
You think that’s right?
I often use to say sorry irrespective off where I am right or wrong to eliminate the Issue
You think that’s right?
Yes absolutely right
I don’t think that manners should be so easily discarded
That’s true, but for example. hairdresser should not say sorry, do not fool me, or I’m sorry to give the seller two left shoes
If you’re in the service industry, you’d better apologize for anything and everything if you want to keep your job
As a worker yes, but as a client does not
As a consumer, you are ostensibly always right but if you are rude or abusive to the wrong employee, they might give you a little something extra…
I think having self confidence helps as well.
I agree, self-confidence plays a big role
The main difference between the people is that not everyone is capable of saying ”sorry”. on the other hand, not everyone who says ”sorry” means it! That’s a nice post!
thank you Elena, I agree with you
thanks a lot,and I have to practice.
I think it is ok for both sides. Its ok to say I am sorry. It is also ok to ask for what you want.
thank you, I respect your opinion
I don’t understand this. What does “accidentally hit your own hat” mean?
Accidentally crushed by a high heels.