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One of the things that always concerns me is the reaction of people when you argue with them. There are four reactions listed below.

1. They hear your argument and change their mind.

2. They hear your argument and present additional information that supports their original position.

3. They ignore you

4. They attack you as a person.

I have come to the realization that I no longer interact with anyone that uses the last two methods. Hey if you disagree, it’s ok! I find many ideas in the world, the more ideas you are exposed to, the better you can react to information the next time. I love to learn new things and relish reading posts that introduce new information. I also try to respond to posts that share information that isn’t true as well. I do try to present a counter-argument with links if possible, to facts that disagree with the position of the author. There are few people that have shared things that I couldn’t tolerate. I wish there were a report content button, but there isn’t.

To make Virily successful, we need several things. The first is a vibrant community. Let us spend time figuring out how we as a writing community can help Virily get new users. How do we convince writers to join Virily? Virily pays pretty equally for reading and posting. Yes, the reality is if you post 1-2 items per day, you will generate more Virils over time than simply reading posts every day. That said, I set a personal goal of reading 20 or more posts a day. That means I get between 80 or so Virils every day from that. I also generate 240 Virils a day (or more depending on the post type( for Authors. Beyond that, I share posts with Social Media and get decent responses there.

Let’s end with this. Everyone makes mistakes. It happens. I make mistakes. You make mistakes. IT happens! The first time, if something happens, I usually will see how it plays out, but normally I don’t do anything. If you treat me poorly once, hey it happens. If you treat me poorly twice, I will stop interacting with you. If you apologize, I will, of course, give you a second chance. But I draw the line at the 3rd time. If you apologize and then do the same thing, then I will ignore you. I don’t have time to spend on people that need to clean up their act. I want to create a vibrant, growing community of authors, readers, and interactions. I hope you do as well!!!

  • It is hard to ignore someone when they make a point of saying mean things, right?

    • Yes
    • No
  • It is getting close to time for a new Movers project, right?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Will you share the best thing about Virily in the Comments?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Do you feel the same as I do in this post?

    • Yes
    • No

What do you think?

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Written by DocAndersen

I am a long time blogger and technology poster.I focus on what is possible, but I also try to see what is coming. In recent years I have been focused on sharing the memories of my family, as part of my Family History Project.

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  1. There is an inherent problem with communication by typing: The same way that an oracle works because it must be interpreted by the receiver (Carl Jung) typing communication requires reading by the receiver. Comments are often brief for expediency and may seem abrupt or harsh. Someone may be in a bad mood, etc…. Care with words by the writer and, most importantly, neutrality when reading by the receiver are tantamount for communication with no voice, no eyes, etc….
    Doc, I find you quite affable, forgiving, optimistic, etc… in your communications.

  2. I’ll be honest, I like to write , read , post pictures and earn which is why I am here on Virily. I am also here because unlike the other sites where I need to write serious articles Virily allows me to simply share my thoughts. I am here to have fun and enjoy this site. I don’t like to get into arguments and negative interaction. I avoid those who can’t be nice and say mean stuff.

  3. Q: It is hard to ignore someone when they make a point of saying mean things, right?
    Yes (10 votes) – 77%
    No (3 votes) – 23%
    Q: It is getting close to time for a new Movers project, right?
    Yes (10 votes) – 83%
    No (2 votes) – 17%
    Q: Will you share the best thing about Virily in the Comments?
    Yes (10 votes) – 91%
    No (1 votes) – 9%
    Q: Do you feel the same as I do in this post?
    Yes (11 votes) – 100%

  4. I love Virily. With a few hitches, it’s still a great site. I have made friends on Virily and I have learned much.
    I can complain much about Virily but the fact is that I can’t leave it. When I’m hooked, I stay no matter what😉😉😉

    • Virily is the type of site where the community is the most important thing!

      But your point is well taken, there are issues. Some of the issues are 3 or more years old. Some of them are new.

      Either way, it is a great community!

  5. I sometimes argue in reality but I never do it in the internet. Thus I do not receive negative. I prefer to see what I agree with and put a comment on what I think the same with the author.
    I agree with your idea to point to a mistake or inaccuracy but will do it myself maybe in 5% of cases…

  6. I personally do not have any problems with Virily … if someone doesn’t answer me, I just ignore it, but it doesn’t seem wise to communicate with someone if he doesn’t know the minimal etiquette

  7. I agree with what you said. We don’t have the time or patience for haters here on Virily. We are a community of like-minded people who just want to write and share and comment without a lot of drama.

  8. Oh man, have I made some colossal mistakes and thankfully there were people here to “kindly” point it out and give me guidance. I will be forever grateful.

    I was trying to tell someone in my home about Doc and it was quite funny because he wanted to remember what we were talking about so he was taking notes. I have the notes he wrote laminated on a card because he somehow took what I said, changed the words and made something that I will forever cherish. It’s just a list of words and phrases that he created from my babble and for me it’s right on. This is exactly how he wrote it.

    Stranger, Wise, Knows everything because willing to learn what he doesn’t know, Not ever lost at sea, and loves the water, family man, respectful, tolerant, steadfast, Consistent, leader and follower (those are hard to find) father, husband, and probably not a redneck, well traveled and caring.

    I guess the best thing about Virily is the people I have come to know and respect. I learn new things every day that I come and read and write.

    Thanks for the reminders.

    • My answer to that is I completely agree and I completely disagree.

      If someone can’t treat other people reasonably there really is no choice but for them to change. Discourse, as Socrates elaborated does not exist in a vacuum. That we each express ourselves with the Legos, Pathos, and Eros that we enter the conversation with. But, as Socrates said we are higher-order capable of walking out of that conversation changed.

      I have never met a human being that could not change. Would not, is a different problem.

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