Andre Hartslief
The Big Picture In order to resist the effects of gaslighting is to first get in touch with your own reality and prevent yourself from getting trapped in an endless loop of self-doubt. Learn to identify the red flags of a malignant narcissist and their manipulation tactics so you can get out of disorienting, crazy conversations with a malignant narcissist before they escalate into wild accusations, projections, blameshifting and put-downs which will only exacerbate your sense of confusion.
RECORD THE SEQUENCE OF EVENTS
Develop a sense of self-validation and self-trust so you can get in touch with how you really feel about the way someone is treating you, rather than getting stuck attempting to explain yourself to a manipulator with a hidden agenda. Getting space from your abuser is paramount. Be sure to document or electronically record events as they happened, rather than how your abuser tells you they happened.
ENGAGE IN SELF-CARE
Save text messages, voicemails, e-mails, audio or video recordings (if permitted in your state laws) which can help you to remember the facts in times of mental fog, rather than subscribing to the distortions and delusions of the abuser. Engage in extreme self-care by participating in mind-body healing modalities that target the physical as well as psychological symptoms of the abuse.
WRITE YOUR OWN REALITY
Recovery is important to achieve mental clarity. Enlist the help of a third party, such as a trauma-informed therapist, and go through the incidents of abuse together to anchor yourself back to what you’ve experienced. Malignant narcissists frequently attempt to rewrite your reality, but you don’t have to accept their twisted interpretations as the truth.
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It is said Donald Trump is a malignant narcissist, this is why is so difficult to beat him.
Oh, perceptions, perceptions, the ever-present voice of mystery, this mysterious voice has a multitude of other voices, IE, “people say”, “we feel”, “we believe”. whatever floats Trump’s boat, err, I meant flotilla, sorry, he must be doing something clever to be a billionaire and stay one. Thanks for commenting.
Good information here . thank you
You are welcome, thanks for reading it.
I was sitting way over there when this guy came over with an I – I – I blah blah. The hallmark of a Narcissist. What did I do? Right in the middle of one of his sentences I called to someone passing.
He took this as so insulting he walked away. Ahhhh! When you know how to deal with a narcissist is is just too easy.
You applied a classic textbook solution, I’m proud of you Jaylar.
Thank you… once you identify a narcissist you have no problem in getting rid of them.
Very helpful information about this topic.
I hope if your path is ever crossed by a narcissist, you can face him/her head on, Jenna!
I have had to interact with these types before Andre, I now have learned to keep my distance. It avoids a lot of drama.
If this response works for you Carol, I’m happy for you. Thanks for reading and commenting. 😉