Albert Herdianto Widjojo
This is the srikaya tree in my mother’s house. I took the picture last Monday with a cellphone camera. If you pay attention, you can see there are two srikaya that hang there. The small one is almost ripe and the big one is still raw. I have posted about this fruit twice https://virily.com/home-gardening/srikaya-365-photos-challenge-181/ and https://virily.com/virily_poll/srikaya-once-again-macro-monday/.
Many people like this fruit, including my wife, unfortunately not many people have this tree. Many people ask my mother for this fruit, and she certainly gives it, even though she often has to give up this fruit when she wants to pick it already eaten by the bats. Basically, she was only happy to plant and care for plants, including several types of betel and other medicinal plants that people often needed, and my mother was very happy when someone asked for something from her. In fact, she is well known by the traders around her because she almost never refuse anything they sell when they offer her on the grounds of pity or empathy for them, and without bargaining. In the house where she lives alone, there is so much stuff and food to be wasteful because no one uses or eats it. We have advised our mother not to always buy what is offered to her but it seems our advice is not effective.
By the way, this fruit, besides being delicious to eat as a fruit, is also very delicious as a jam.
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Question of
Do you know this fruit?
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Yes
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Question of
Do I or my siblings must insist in order our mother doesn’t buy what she doesn’t need and only buys out of pity and empathy?
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Yes
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No
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Users voted 8 times.
Q: DO I OR MY SIBLINGS MUST INSIST IN ORDER OUR MOTHER DOESN’T BUY WHAT SHE DOESN’T NEED AND ONLY BUYS OUT OF PITY AND EMPATHY?
Yes (7 votes) – 78%
No (2 votes) – 22%
Q: DO YOU KNOW THIS FRUIT?
Yes (7 votes) – 100%
This fruit certainly doesn’t grow with us, dear Albert … I don’t know if I’ve seen it in any market before … but now I really have to look 1x if it’s sold
Even this fruit is rarely available in stores or fruit sellers in my country, dear friend.
Is it rarer for you or is it too expensive, dear Albert
I don’t even know the reason why not many shops or fruit traders don’t sell that fruit.
But maybe there is no demand for this fruit, dear friend
Well, because of climate differences and so on, I think there must be quite a lot of difference between what is available at your place there, and me here.
What’s the name of this fruit?
Custard apple which we call it srikaya.
Users voted 6 times.
Q: DO I OR MY SIBLINGS MUST INSIST IN ORDER OUR MOTHER DOESN’T BUY WHAT SHE DOESN’T NEED AND ONLY BUYS OUT OF PITY AND EMPATHY?
Yes (5 votes) – 71%
No (2 votes) – 29%
Q: DO YOU KNOW THIS FRUIT?
Yes (6 votes) – 100%
This fruit has not yet reached us, so I do not know it. Your mom also has a good and big heart like you.
Strange! I ordered them to go to your house, apparently, they ignored the order. I must apologize for their defiance.
Thank you for your praise for my mother and me, I really appreciate it, dear friend.
Therefore, long distances are possible for us to travel ?
Maybe they are too afraid to travel by plane!
I think I’ve seen this fruit in one of your previous posts. It hasn’t arrived in my area yet!
Yes, the fruit has indeed visited you before, at least as a picture…
Since I’m from Indonesia, I’m well aware of this fruits. In love it as a jam! It’s so delicious.
Aha! Apparently there are compatriots and fellow citizens here. Glad to know you Haraka.
I’m completely understand the excitement because it’s quite rare for me to find fellow Indonesian. Glad to see known a well Albert.
Previously there was one other user who was also from Indonesia, from Bali and her husband with different nationalities, unfortunately, she was no longer active.
The hardest thing for parents is being told no by their children. But the other side of the problem is what are you and your siblings worried about?
Actually she understands and can accept our advice, unfortunately, her attitude of generosity and empathy is also irrevocable. Another problem with her generosity is the amount of food in her house, on the dining table, in the fridge, everywhere which is so much and cannot eat (expired or else…) and continues to grow.
that is a very hard situation. I know my mother is in a similar boat, but I also know that it makes her happy.
Yes, that attitude makes our mothers happy. Usually, when we sort all the food that has to be thrown away, she just watches and doesn’t really know what she is thinking at that time.
I am sorry that is very hard to transition from child to parent.
This is really some thing very new for me , I would appreciate share more detail of this fruit .
In general, this fruit is called custard apple. Well, maybe on another occasion I will write about this fruit in more detail.
I love custard apple. We have these trees all over the place. The only thing about this fruit is it is messy and has hundreds of seeds in it.
Wow! It was great, my friend! Yes, that fruit does have a lot of seeds…
I don’t know this fruit. I think she is a kind hearted lady but you give her good advice
In general, this fruit is called custard apple. I think she is indeed generous and many people are also good at taking advantage of her character. Well, for she thinks it’s not a problem so we can’t force her too…
We also have 2 trees of that fruit that we call Atis and in English custard apple.
That’s great, Alex. Glad to know the names of that fruit in the Philippines. Thanks.
It looks like what we call custard apple.
I think your mother could be told but if she gets happiness doing what she does you should leave her alone.
I’m sure it’s custard apple, but that’s how it’s called in my country, srikaya.
She does feel happy with what she is doing, the problem is the accumulation of goods and food that she doesn’t use or eat and can’t get shared with other people. We can’t visit her every day, besides, we don’t necessarily need or perhaps not like the items or food she buys.
I understand.
We have problems with yields too. Too much that we put them in the compost pits after distributing.
Then what should you do?
Just wait for the compost to be ready (lol)
My grandparents’ fig tree has the same trouble with critters. Not bats, but birds.
I think it’s important your mother learns to not waste food, but she has good intentions and her good heart should not be chained. Perhaps she could donate the food or just pay a tip to the traders without buying anything. You’ve probably already told her so, old habits die hard.
Hi, glad to see you again.
There were some fruit trees in my mother’s yard, and it seemed like bats and birds competed somewhat there.
That’s what we often say to mom but she never has the heart to refuse, so that even many merchants simply place their wares on the patio table if my mother is not at home, and she owes without any agreement!
My mother doesn’t like to eat sweets but wherever she goes she will bring a bag of it to share with anyone she meets, taxi drivers, security officers, church officers, children, anyone…
Another new fruit I have learned about. You are so blessed with your Mother.
This fruit is rarely traded, but many people like it.
Thanks for your kind words, Carol.