Albert Herdianto Widjojo
The sky can change every second even though basically it is the same sky. That same sky which has also been and has always been a witness to all events in our lives because we live on Earth in the middle of the sky. So, let the whole event be recorded by heaven and earth while we only need to remember and forget what we need to live and enjoy life.
A little touching the conversation about forgetting together with Carol and Lado during this weekend has reminded me of the theme I wanted to write a few days ago.
On many occasions, we often hate forgetting until then many drugs that function to fight “forget” or to strengthen memory. But, do you realize that forgetting turned out to have many benefits that we did not realize? Imagine, if humans don’t have the “Forgotten” nature, they will definitely be tormented. Many traumas from the incident that happened to someone, if not forgotten it will continue to haunt them. This will have a negative impact on one’s mentality.
Forgetting is human nature. it is a gift from God given to humans. In addition to being given memory, humans are also given an eraser, which is to forget. Because not all ways of human life are always smooth, there must be many unwanted events, so they must be forgotten. Not all ways of human life are always smooth, there must be many unwanted events, so they must be forgotten. So, as important as remembering, forgetting also has the same benefits. Of course, both must be balanced and in harmony. I am also sure that you know that forgetting is just the other side of the same coin. Both are only children of the essence of duality.
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A great thought-provoking post. Yes, forgetting is an essential part of mental hygiene, otherwise our brains get cluttered up with too much old useless stuff. I suffer because I can’t forget anything! Too much painful stuff in my brain I am forced to relive all the time. I find meditation helps a lot with that though.
I think you are the only person discussing this thing in that context, Maggy. Maybe people are less interested in understanding what I write except people with experience like you and have decided to do something. You are right, there are many ways to help deal with such problems, and meditation is one of them.
Hi again Albert. Yes, maybe you need to have had the experience I have had to understand.
I understand what you mean, but don’t worry, my own life is full of drama and spiritual upheaval to this day, but I am thankful for all that as a path to my true self.
So very true Albert, if we can master the art of letting go, then even with the memories we can free ourselves from a painful past.
I am so happy to have wise friends like you here, Bradley. Regardless of whether people agree or not with the opinions we share, we only like to share various things that might be useful to others, but actually by sharing things like this I’m just affirming my own consciousness.
We share one in the same energy. Spirituality within consciousness are part of the same Universal whole.
You are right about that, brother. It is universal even though not everyone is interested.
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I totally agree with you. I also forget a lot. But it is interesting that I can not forget the things I would like.
Our memory of something will only shift down to the bottom stack if we don’t recall regularly or often, or in other words, stop thinking about it or stop giving that memory its food; unnecessary analysis and reasons. Desires usually work the opposite, like something I once posted in the title “Don’t” at https://virily.com/virily_poll/dont-saturdays-critters/
The problem is that emotions that are bound to certain events usually often recall our memories of those events, especially those we most want to forget. Thanks for your thought, dear friend.
I agree. I have worked very hard and I hope that I will go through this soon and forget unpleasant memories.
I think peace and happiness is our natural state and you deserve to get it back, dear friend.
Thank you very much, dear friend, for kind and encouraging words
I believe some things are impossible to forget and then for such cases only forgive will work …
You probably won’t forget a trauma (unless you’re so shocked your brain deletes the whole event) … it’ll come back at times still … then it’s only overcoming it …
Usually we forget what we don’t want to forget … (“Aye, what is my password huh?”)
and remember those that are better if forgotten.
Ironic. LOL
There are many perspectives that are in line with your opinion, dear friend. So once again I need to say that there really isn’t a single thing that can be erased from our minds, which at least stays in the subconscious mind. But that does not mean there is no way to manage that memory wisely, such as the methodology of NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) which is more scientific than the various other approaches that I have also used so far and have successfully helped my clients to overcome their various problems.
Yes, I do agree with that … if you can’t forget then there is only dealing with it, whether its forgiving (yourself or the person) or overcoming it.
I’ve heard of various ways to improve mood by changing either the thoughts or habits
I am sure you have known such a thing indeed, then the next is how we will respond to all that.
When we think that we have forgotten something, the to-be-forgotten thing is in our thoughts. So it is impossible to forget a thing forcibly. Forgetting can not happen when we want to forget something. We can forget only when we stop thinking and no longer wish to forget. Poor you Albert. Hope you won’t read this (so called) philosophical stuff.
You are right. Mohan. Desire or want is more disappointing than beneficial. Indeed, we can never erase the memory of our minds, because at least most of it is still stored in our subconscious mind, even the reason for our birth. We just need to remember that in the world of duality, everything is always complimentary, we cannot just want one side and reject the other, that’s all.
Thank you for feeling sorry for me because there are rarely such caring people. But by the way, are you hostile to philosophical stuff?
No way Albert. Philosophy is just fine with me. Or else, would I have gone philosophical myself?
I am happy to know that, Mohan. I think life is not just about what appears on the surface but also the essence behind it, right?
I believe that we should not forget just like that, but we should move on.
I totally agree with you. That is what we call learning from experience in all its variants. There is always a part that must be forgotten from something besides that which must be kept in mind.
Funny thing is, there are a lot of things that we should remember that we even forget, and what we should forget we even carry it everywhere.
can you forget, what a wonderful question Albert! Yes, and now is the ambiguous answer. I do forget often, but i do recall often as well.
As we consider releasing the past into the ether we have to weigh the value of each memory.
I feel that little by little, your disguise as a layman in this kind of thing is increasingly revealed, Doc.
This theme actually has a wide and deep context, it’s just that I think it would be less useful if I put it at once in one post considering it would be very long, at least so.
One thing, I’m happy to see various points of view about this even though all the readers here know about “Live in the Now” and most agree with that.
I am still a child on this journey Albert but your gentle words are welcomed!
I have a lot of nice and bad memories … I can not forget them … but I remember only the beautiful ones in bad preferences (in quotation marks) I forget and do not remember them
I am very lucky and grateful to have a unique friend like you, Lado.
And I also feel the same dear Albert
Thank you so much, dear friend.
The good thing about forgetting bad events is that they are in the past and gone forever. The good part is learning from my errors and using them to be a better person and move forward.
That is the most important part of forgetting, Dee. Past events are gone, forever, but we are still often trapped in them, while we are right at the point we call “Now”. Many people have the knowledge of “living in a present moment” but not many are able to do it, or to be.
You have a good point there since a lot of television show and movies do have those flashback moments.
It’s only good and useful if we want to learn something from history.
That is so true since it adds to the drama of the story.
there are also some studies which indicate that to learn new information, you have to forget old information…
Yup! Isn’t that what we call “learn to unlearn”?
and then there are some things you have to remind yourself to forget
lol… When we remind to forget, at that time we will strengthen the memory of that. Cute joke!
isn’t it funny? but it actually works if you know how to derail a train of thought
In silence, it only needs to be ignored if it appears, without the need to be rejected, analyzed or judged.
when you ignore something, isn’t that a form of rejection?
Is not to enter silence we must let go of any concept? besides just letting them pass?
you’re saying that in a place of silence, we hold nothing
I don’t think when people say forgive and forget they mean quite the same thing as the kind of forgetting that made me put the orange juice in the cupboard and the laundry detergent in the refrigerator. I did that when I was 20-something, so it wasn’t age related. Anyway I haven’t forgotten having done that.
Forgetting or forgiving in the context that you mean does not mean removing the fragment from memory but making the emotions associated with it fade away. Even memories or insignificant information, that is never even thought or remembered will not disappear from the storage warehouse. We certainly don’t remember how many buildings we passed and the sounds we heard during the trip today, but certain hypnosis can call that insignificant information from our subconscious brain.
Exactly. When we forgive we don’t forget, we just disassociate from the negative aspect of the thing. If we forgot then we might have the exact same reaction if it happened again.
Precisely, Ann. And that’s what we call learning from experience, right?
I hope that the laundry was beautifully smelled of orange dear Ann
Hah, lado. I did realize what I had done just a moment later and ran to the kitchen to switch those misplaced items. But my late hubby actually put a package of hot dogs in his tool chest and I didn’t find them until 10 years later. I could still read the expiration date on the package.
That hot dogs can be a valuable inheritance!
I have many not so good memories that have caused PTSD and I will never forget them. I just learn to live with them.
A beautiful sky photo.
Memories with strong emotions will survive in the top stack. Such memories must indeed be well received and understood in order to be able to continue to push our steps now forward, right?
Yes they do for sure. Nothing you can do about them.
Sometimes easier to say I forgive but we never really forget or do we? We often unconsciously decide what is worth remembering or what to put into the forgetting pile.
You are very right, Pamela. In many cases, it is very difficult for us to forget something but on the contrary, many things that are important for us to remember but we put in the bottom of our memory.