LaJenna
I know someone that is hurting her whole family. The family tries not to allow her to cause them much sadness. She has had a lot of emotional pain within the last few years, but the rest of her family wants to carry on the best that they can.
I seem to have only one question showing. I want to know if anyone knows of ideas on how to not allow others to drag themselves down with others, especially around the holidays.
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Do you know someone that will not let the past go?
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Do you have any suggestions on how to cope with this?
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Do you have any ideas on how to be happy in-spite of these people>
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The path to change is littered with failure. That person has to want to change. Based on that you have to decide if you want that person in your life.
You have a good heart and see the best in all.
I try Doc Anderson but having a big heart tends to hurt me a lot. I will keep trying!
my wife is the same way, she gets hurt often
Only a personal decision by the person to change can bring happiness to her. The others should not let her press their buttons. Giving others the key to our emotions leads to disaster.
You are so right Dawn, and thank you!
For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness
Thank you Witty, you made me think about my situation more.
I have my own strengths and nothing will affect me. The best way is to change the topic when anyone tries to draw someone in a conversation that is depressing.
My mantra is it is not how much one has but what one makes of what one has is the route to happiness.
Thank you grace for sharing your thoughts.
don’t let them bring you down, you must rise above their level
Thank you, brother, I will try to keep my spirits high.
a boat can float on the waves or sink under them
You have to come to the realization that this person will not just remain the way they are but will bring you down with them, The best way is to tune them out and to remain positive and go your own way,
Thank you RasmaSandra for a way to help me stay positive.
I have a toxic family member who blames me for everything that has gone wrong in his life. I know this is not true and don’t let it hurt me any more.
I will try to not let it bother me as well.
You have to realize you cannot change that person. Be as happy as you can be, keep your chin up, and try your best to keep the drama away. It is hard but you can do it. This too shall pass.
Thank you dear Carol I needed to hear these words.
Put them on your refrigerator if you need to!