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This video caught my attention because the thumbnail looks like anything but a cat in love.
Maybe the cat has gone through some rough experiences that made it scared and hostile but after the man proved that he doesn’t want to hurt it, the cat got comfortable with him. It made me think about us humans. Sometimes, it’s not easy to trust others and it’s not our fault that we have gone through what has made us suspicious and doubting. However, I believe that the way we cope with this and how we are going to treat others afterwards depends on us. What do you think?
If you are interested in psychology and people’s behavior, especially in relationships with others, here’s a channel I have enjoyed lately.
Another brilliant moment in the video is when the man asks, “Nice and warm inside or Freedom?”; that’s a choice that most of us have to make at some point.
Photo: pixabay.com
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Do you trust people easily?
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Do you trust people easily?
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I must admit, I don’t people until I know them really well.
However having said that I always give newly met folks the benefit of the doubt
until they prove otherwise.
In other words I start at zero with an open mind perspective.
It is up to them where they place themselves on my trust scale either + or -.
That’s a very wise perspective! Sounds like you have found the perfect balance.
Depends on the person. In some I trust from the beginning, in others never!
A lot of our interactions with people are based on the chemistry we have with them from the beginning.
it is a very difficult question sadly the answer is often no.
That’s often the case for many people.
My rule has been reinforced in recent months.
1. fool me once, shame on you.
if you apologize all is forgive we move on.
2. do the same thing again
i no longer associate with you, but will not be mean or rude to you.
3. do it a third time, and we are now no longer connected in anyway.
Well, I don’t trust people easily but sometimes give them the benefit of the doubt…
You can usually find out through experience what some people tend to do…It is smart not to be too trusting and not to be too cagey…but sometimes take calculated risks..
Yes, I have had some bad experiences but hopefully taught me something..
You sumed it up in a great way, Pamela! I am sure that each experience has taught you a valuable lesson.
Since I could not explain my answer for your post about trusting people. I either trust them too much or do not trust them at all. I want to get back to the animal one. If animals were abused or abandoned it does take them a long time to trust humans. You need patience with them and let them come to you.
Talk to them and make them feel welcome. People are a lot harder to do that with.
That is why there are those that prefer animals to people.
That’s true, sometimes it’s easier to make that bond with animals as they don’t overthink as much as we humans do.
It is one of my major flaws, I tend to trust people easily. However, I keep studying them all the time.
It’s good to give people a chance but it’s also wise to be careful. It seems that you have found the balance.
I tend to always trust at first, and I keep on trusting, until, or if, that trust is abused by others.
I think that trust is an accommodatory stance of love that gives the benefit of the doubt of whether the other person is also loving, or not to that person.
Love assumes that everyone is worthy of both trust and love.
If they are not loving people, it is not so much misplaced trust by us, but more misused trust by them.
That’s a very interesting perspective! It’s a pity that sometimes when our trust was misused, a person who deserves to be trusted may be later mistrusted because of our previous trauma.
Yes, we should take each instance or interaction with anyone as a fresh one, to avoid prejudicing the situation from some past happening.
If we could all do this, it would really give the benefit of the doubt to the other person, giving them another chance to step up and prove that that other instance was just an aberration, and not really the whole person who they are.
As someone once said, we are the person, not what we do, to some extent.
Punish the deed, not the person, in other words.
These are very wise words, I agree with you. Thank you for your profound comments!
That’s a nice video. We have a brood of cats that just do not like petting.
It takes time for me to trust people.
Many just don’t like the feeling. I have read that petting builds up some static electricity in their fur.
*Sorry, prolonged petting
Cute video. I am very distrustful of bad experiences.
I am sorry to hear you had such bad experiences!
Unfortunately, my life was not very nice. I try to leave that behind and enjoy the rest of my life.
That’s a very wise and inspiring perspective. We can’t control the experiences in our life but it’s up to us to cope with them and move on. It’s amazing that despite the hardship you are still such a wonderful and nice person.
Thank you very much for your kind words. I know a few people who didn’t know how (wanted to) “pick up” and therefore ruined their lives. I didn’t want to make that mistake.
It’s wise to avoid such bad behavior.
The one you described in your previous comment.
A great video. I have reasons not to trust and always try to be very cautious.
It’s always worth it to be cautious.
I have been lied to many times. I don’t trust so easily anymore.
Sorry to hear that! It’s hard to trust after you have been hurt.