Ghostwriter
I really do love living with someone who has Alzheimer’s. It gives a different perspective on every single part of your life. You NEVER know what might come out of his mouth and where he may think that he is or who he may think I am. Life here is truly an adventure. Today he came in and handed me a paper and he had written on the top “I Wish”.
“What’s this?” I said.
“I need you to write down your wish list. I think I have misplaced the one you had written before.”
I don’t recall writing a wish list, but that’s neither here nor there. I am not sure what prompted the need for the list. I think he was watching the news and I can’t imagine that it came from there, but the mind is a funny thing. I asked him how long he wanted the list to be. He said “Just a thousand things.”
“Are you sure?”
“Okay, maybe two thousand.”
(I should learn when to keep my mouth shut.)
I know exactly what I am going to do.
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Question of
Do you know what I am going to do?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Do you care what I am going to do?
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Yes
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No
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Finally, I get it. Sorry to hear this, Trenna. You really have the coping skills and temperament for handling this, but you don’t feel that you do, I know. On waking, ask God’s blessing on your intended actions for the rest of the day take a full-body stretch, relax for a moment. Then do your best. Those things are what I did when my Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago before she passed. You did not cause the condition, so you don’t have to beat yourself up, (I did) until I realized if anyone can be blamed it’s definitely God and NOT you. We just need to keep trying to cope. Bless you.
what a wonderful idea – i love this. I am going to hand one to my wife this morning. This is brilliant!
Well, it has certainly caused a turn of events in our home. There is much more to come!
i think it is awesome. My wife loves it! we decided to take date night Saturday and spend an hour to share our lists with each other!
Just one day at a time and with a positive thought and with much love.
Thank you for the calm and steady reminder that I need.
its really a great post!!!!
I would respectfully ask that you not copy and paste the same comment over and over.
Take each day at a time, that is your only option. Try to smile. 🙂
Okay it’s 4/22 at 5:59am and I am smiling right now. I am in the moment and right now I am fine. I can do with with help from my friends. Thank you.
I work for an elderly lady with Alzheimer’s. You never know what and how it may surprise you. In such a connection one has to be very patient and with nerves of steel.
It is truly a unique situation. I have to pay close attention to the name he calls me.