One of my father’s favorite saying was “keep honest people honest.” I used to wonder what he meant for the longest time until I started putting together the communications patterns and anti-patterns. You see the internet is the wild-wild west. Wild, in that I don’t see, or talk to you most likely in person. Wild in the sense that the username you have, isn’t always your name. Wild in the sense that there are lots of places to hide.
Because it is the wild-wild west, then it means that users of systems have to take the time to make sure other users are following the rules. Complaining about people cutting corners is fine, but you also have to make sure that you follow the rules. The only way a site can improve is if we let them know when people aren’t following the rules. Responsibility is doing the right thing, not hoping the next person does the right thing. It comes back to what my father said. Keep honest people honest, if people cut corners, let them know. If they keep cutting corners on websites, let the admins know. It is when someone cuts corners, your job to keep things moving forward.
The reality is, and the argument you are going to hear about this is I don’t want to be the police. No one does, but by simply reporting bad behavior you are doing two things. The first is you are helping the rule breaker operate within the rules. The second is you are reducing the amount of churn for other site users by reducing the number of people not following the rules. Ask not for the whole the bell tolls; it is always tolling for you. We as members of groups have to help keep honest people honest. We have to make sure that when people break the rules, we first them personally and then we report that.
Otherwise we live in the wild-wild west.
Sites fail when people ignore the rules and do as they please. It causes more work for the administrators and it cheats those who do follow the rules. You know breaking a rule is deliberate when a person, for example, leaves a comment that’s too short and instead of adding more words, uses extra punctuation characters to make up the number of characters missing. This lets the comment through the filter. Technically the person follows the rules by violating the spirit of the rules.
The spirit of the rules is one I hadn’t even considered. I mean I had but you are right, it is still bending the rules.
You are right about sites and failing when the rules are bent. I’ve had two sites die under my feet becuase of that problem.
It is a sad reality.
Yes. I’ve seen at least four sites fail recently, although I can’t attribute all the failures to cheating content writers. I think some site owners also cheated, and others failed due to Google changing the rules on them.
Sad but true comentary, add to that those who bend the rules by not quite following them and you have a receipe for systems falling down.
In a world without rules everyone would do what seems good to them moment by moment. Imagine the chaos, the terror, the sheer insanity of everyone doing that. The very thought is chilling. You offer some good insight into the need for personal responsibility to maintain a moral code. A people not accountable to rules would not be a society, it would be anarchical, meaning that even those who wanted to care for others would have to live for themselves in order to survive the disorderly dangers. It would be the same as living like wild animals. Reminds me of how sad it is that children are being taught that they are no more than an animal!
Great points! Thank you for sharing these!
Completely agree!!!!!!
Thanks! It is always nice when there is a level of agreement!!!
I agree with you Doc. If you see something… say something!
I agree Carol. But not everyone does. I worry about that sometimes.
Yes I know and there lies the problem. For instance this last school shooting, the students had so many signs that were reported and I am sure many that were not. He was pretty much dismissed as a reject.
I think that speaks as much to reporting as anything. When you see someone breaking rules that impact others, you have to report it. You have to, in fact keep reporting it. Even it if feels like no one is listening.
If one person let’s bad beharior slide or exucses it, well.
You are right, we cannot give up. A sad world today.
these days I wonder who really cares about following the rules
it didn’t use to be the way it is now & yes I know times change
& so do the people in that time change but it’s sure scary too.
I truly agree with your points. It is a changing environment. In the end the value of rules is sometimes forgotten!
it’s like there IS no rules it’s all about what who ever can do to
whoever when ever how ever now days.
it does feel like that sometimes. I suspect the best path forward is to make sure you live by the rules, and if needed let others know when they are not.
it don’t do any good to tell others what they NEED to do
they have this concept “it’s their life” they don’t care anymore.
Completely agree, Coach. Looking at this through the glasses of duality that I use most often there are some things we can see and compare in that; personal interests against the personal vision, rules of the game and self-leadership, violations of VS systems of supervision, and mutual benefit & user engagement. It all depends on our intentions and paradigms as members of the community and at the same time as a player or user.
True! Thanks Albert, as always your comments are spot on!
Surely rules are key to our wellbeing as humans. Without which humanity would never be tamed. these rules operate as our speed governors in the lifestyles that we live and engage ourselves in. We have no option but to make sure that when people break the set rules, we should first of all face them personally before reporting them to the authority for appropriate action.
I found this very inspiring, Thanks a lot for sharing.
Thanks, Geoffrey I am glad you liked it!
The wild west is a great place to live. Old westerns are what I grew up on. It is hard to say what other people do and I spend most of my time working on me. If I see something odd I normally approach the person. Rules are a good thing. There are not many here that are well written and explained.Things seem to change on a whim.
I suppose there are sheriffs and posses to take care of that. As for me I will read, write, share, and comment now and then. I have enough on my plate.
I can see the value in both sides you bring up. It is the old adage played out, someone passes you at well over the speed limit, we normally don’t care, they, the speeding driver causes a huge accident and then we have to report it.
There is value in following rules.
🙂