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Excreting Toxic People

It doesn’t matter if this is a close relative or friend. It doesn’t matter if this is a highly respected person or nobody.

A toxic person is one who makes you feel bad about yourself. It is as simple as that.

 

For example;

No matter how happy Grace may be, as soon as she hangs up from her son Ernests’s weekly water boarding she goes into a slump. She spends hours going over the painful accusations, most pure fabrications, some fragments of truth.  It takes days for Grace to get back to herself.  Then, it’s Sunday. Phone day. And she gets another dose of Ernest.

Finally Grace stopped calling. She let Sunday pass and although there was a small twinge of guilt, she felt as good going to bed as she did waking up in the morning.

Another Example;

Trevor was successful, well liked, except in the presence of his father who always found fault, always insulted always made Trevor feel inferior.

One day, Trevor went camping with some friends. For the week he didn’t see his father, he felt happy. His friends and he had no sharp corners, no one insulted him, no one found fault.

When he returned to the city he didn’t call his family. When his father called he let it go to voice mail. He deleted the message unheard. He took a job far away, and virtually cut off his family, although he would send messages to his other relatives. When one wrote saying…”your father…”  he stopped reading, deleted and blocked that address.

These are examples of toxic people, people who take pleasure out of insulting others. Getting rid of them is the only way out.

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Written by jaylar

8 Comments

  1. I have read your post in a ‘just right’ moment! Thank you for sharing!
    It is one of those facts that even though you are aware of them, we need to be reminded of them again and again and sometimes again.
    I will be sharing it to keep in mind 🙂

    • As soon as I find myself having a retrospective on something said in a casual conversation… and realise that this person exists for the purpose of interferring in other people’s lives, they are deleted.

    • That’s exactly right. I just marvel at these people… you think… what do they get? Because a normal mind doesn’t get anything from demeaning others.

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      • Some folks can feel like they are moving ahead when they tear other down. I’m pretty sure this is just the egocentric version of an optical illusion but good luck explaining that to some toxic excuse for a human being

        I’ve talked to people who admitted to watching Jerry Springer so they could feel better than all the losers on that show. I decided not to talk to them anymore after that…