Two millennia ago, the great Stoic philosopher Epictetus (c. 55–135 AD) had thoughts about how we can all look upon death, that may be able to shine better light upon the topic. Losing someone we love does eventually happen to everyone and more than just a few times during our lifetime.
Acceptance of death can be thought of like this. This way of looking upon death may just be able to save our sanity. He explains how to embrace how temporary life is, and be glad others came into our lives at all. If we try to stretch life into eternity, it is like trying to self-protect oneself. Life can feel great, and of course we would like to keep our lives in the everlasting bubble of happiness, but we all know that is not realistic . It will always hurt, or even makes us angry when someone leaves us, however, in time by learning this philosopher’s way of looking at life after death, it will hopefully have people going through grieving periods with times of healing , not everlasting hatred for life.
Carol DM does this information on this link here make sense? I do not know his spiritual belief, but his thoughts sound like it could help grieving sufferers learn how to climb out from hell, and try to live once again, with the thoughts of how loved ones did impact their lives, not crush them forever.
Maybe plant a garden like Carol DM did. Now, she goes out and visits her Dustin’s garden daily, or whenever possible. She thinks of the love they both shared, but she is still trying to enjoy the things around her, like watching butterflies, or watching children playing etc.
Enjoy your memories, and enjoy tomorrow.