Pre-Adultery Wife used to buy the food he liked, cook the meals he liked, watch the programs he liked, go where he liked, associate with his people.
The Betrayed Wife, through anger, neglect, aloneness, bought the food she wanted to eat, watched the television programs she wanted, went where she felt she belonged and associated with her friends.
Post Adultery Wife has no reason whatsoever to return to the old days of being second. In fact, there are lot of reasons why she must never grant him the authority to hurt her again.
Post Adultery Wife never postpones herself, never cancels appointments for his convenience.
She is no clinging vine but an independent tree.