jaylar
Abby was a victim of domestic violence. She had escaped, but never analysed her past relationship. She carried the baggage with her.
Her subsequent relationship was destroyed by her belief that Billy would abuse her because he appeared jealous.
He had never shouted, insulted, lifted a finger. But as Abby connected jealousy with abuse, she broke up with Billy.
As months passed, as Billy found someone else, she slowly began to realise what she had done.
It was too late when she finally grasped that she had not healed from the Abuse of her Ex and had carried it with her into her relationship with Billy.
It was after the relationship she could have had with Billy was dead and buried that Abby grasped the fact.
The need to analyse the abusive relationship one has left is vital to insure one does not repeat it.
So many victims out there, it is a sad situation.
There was an Interview last week on the BBC where one women had gone through 3 different abusive relationships. The way she was talking number 4 was in the wings.
I do not understand.
She never analysed the relationships. Never went over them bit by bit to see how it happened, what happened, how she saw it at the time, etc. The fact is, unless a person analyses, realises what happened, recognises herself as a victim and then moves on, she will bounce from one bad relationship to another.
I get hat part but it is so hard to understand, since I have not been in that situation thankfully, how one can keep going back.