Mrs. Z has been a miserable creature for the past thirty years. It was thirty years ago that her husband betrayed her and she raced for a divorce.
Although on paper she was free, intellectually she was not. And although the calendar kept moving, she did not.
When she spoke it seemed that she’d caught her husband last month, not thirty years ago.
This is because Mrs. Z never recovered.
She never dated or allowed herself to grow. She stayed exactly as she was the day after hearing her husband had betrayed her.
This is exactly what you don’t want to be.
You don’t want to carry his adultery with you for the rest of your life. You want to survive it, you want to be able to deal with it, and move on.