Female Abusers rarely resort to physical violence. They have an armoury of other methods. Most are silent and let the man think he rules, but do what they please.
If she doesn’t want to go out she doesn’t say so, she just makes it impossible.
Female Abusers fill their husband’s life with their family and friends.
Her friends will push her agenda. If she wants to go to a particular function, she doesn’t say so. All her family and friends convince her Husband to take her to the event.
The Husband’s life is controlled by the wife. Who he sees, where he goes, what he does, is all her decision.
As she has contempt for him there is no reason to discuss anything with him. It is her way, always.
He just thinks it was his choice, until the very end, when she throws him out or leave.