It is only if one examines the relationship between Ben and Dora that the full nature of her abuse is exposed.
The standard Abusive Wife is what I call a Lemur Lady. She looks helpless, she is very quiet, she never argues or disputes. But she does what she pleases.
To take a mundane example;
Husband…”The Kitchen needs painting.”
Wife…..(looks around the kitchen and nods)
Husband..”We should paint it blue.”
Wife…(says nothing, just looks at husband)
The next day the Husband comes home and the kitchen is yellow.
Husband…”I thought we agreed to paint it blue.”
Wife… (as if she is about to cry) “You said the kitchen needed painting.”
The point is simple, she couldn’t care less what he does, says, thinks. She does what she pleases. She doesn’t debate because she has nothing but contempt for him.
The Husband allows himself to believe she is stupid and docile.