jaylar
Don is an abuser. Every moment he drives those two hundred miles, he feels he is stomping on Lynn’s face. He will find the law, the lawyer, won’t!
Late in the day, after Don has already driven those two hundred miles, Lynn sends him an email.
She informs him that the law he seeks is in documents at the local Department of that governmental branch.
Don does not, can not respond.
He can not berate Lynn, can not prove to her how brilliant he is. Lynn did not take the bait. Lynn did not do more than sit back and watch him waste time, waste gas,….He has driven all this way for Nothing!
Thirty years ago, Lynn had been married to Don. She knows him… knows him very well. She knows he is an Abuser. She was Abused by him. She escaped.
Lynn knew when she received his first email, when he asked for assistance, then sent shards of documents, that the purpose of the exercise was not for Don to reopen any case. The purpose was to give her a basket to carry water, and send her to the well.
Lynn did not fall for it.
So many suffer in silence. Thanks for talking about this issue.
It is very important that women realise that the man who abused his girlfriend when he was 19, will abuse his wife and when he is 69 still find ways to abuse.
You make an excellent point. I have advised my friends of this same thing.
They have to learn ‘it is not ‘different’…the usual explanation. I write about this topic a great deal as people tend to blind themselves to abuse.
In the example above, it isn’t ‘knee jerk’ that Don was looking to abuse Lynn. Logic would demand other answers. But there are none.