jaylar
Gabi was one of those children who demanded attention unless you were giving her attention.
If I was focusing on her she would demand to be left alone.
As any parent, one is concerned about the diet, the activities, the presentation, and all my attempts to give advice, monitor, correct would receive an emotional response that I was smothering her.
If I didn’t pay her attention, but sat in my room she would say I was ignoring her.
Fortunately, the Nanny did pretty well and Gabi liked her, so that was one problem I didn’t have.
Eventually, I could ring the Nanny from the office to have her tell Gabi I was working late and wouldn’t be home until ten.
This allowed me a few dinner dates.
It had taken over a year for me to be able to have a bit of life.
I began dating a very nice man named Arnold. Thinking normal was possible, I had him stop by the house one evening.
Gabi had a presentation worthy of an Oscar.
That was the last time I saw Arnold.
If I thought it was Arnold who upset Gabi, I would be stupider than I looked.
Any person who came to the house, man, woman, friends or coworkers, there for business or pleasure, got Gabi’s worst behaviour.
Reasoning is important, being able to take care of one’s self. My kinds don’t need me…they may want me…but they can survive without me
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the reality of limits with kids is so critical. i am enjoying the story so far!
You have to know your kids and catch their tricks. Once you do, they actually respect you.
i was a very rough kid growing up, i know most of the tricks long before the kid even realizes they were going to do something.
What I focused on was having my kids use judgement.
you and I approached things the same way. I always teach my kids not to throw out the information from one side. Understand the why of both sides. You don’t have to agree with the side you consider wrong, just know what they expect or want.
The twins don’t like it much.