When my friend Bradley retired, people cried. He was hailed as the best manager ever. All of the employees, all of those who had to deal with him over the years, gave glowing tributes.
After the ceremony, when we were alone, Bradley told me,
“I didn’t give a sh8t.”
Bradley had taken the job because he couldn’t get what he wanted. He did the work without any personal involvement or interest.
His lack of concern was read as patience, calmness, balance.
He never lost his cool, never was unable to complete a project, because he couldn’t care less.
But his complete indifference was read as commitment.
This is an example of how people attribute the wrong motives, sometimes, as with Bradley in a positive light.