The ability of Peony to escape a potential abusive relationship was based on her analysis of her relationship with her ex-husband.
Had she not done so, had she not gone day by day, event by event, she would not have so easily perceived the pattern of abuse.
The man who tries to make you cry is an Abuser.
Sure, something might happen, you might be touched, but when it happens more than once, and is unnecessary; ask why.
To take a woman to dinner on a date and tell her a tragic event of your past, to make her cry, well, maybe, maybe he wants to share?
But on a second date, try to do it again?
This is a date, not a psycho-drama.