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We had an early Mother’s Day celebration over at our grandmother’s house this weekend. It was a potluck dinner and everyone brought some food.
I dislike huge gathering but well, I had no choice but to attend, and it turned out that it didn’t disappoint me at all, not that it’s good this way.
There are quarrels and arguments between my uncles and aunties over trivia things like the food brought. It was miscommunication turned bad with name calling and mocking.
My uncle left early and angry, my father came back angry too…
That got me thinking, why do we have family gatherings? Isn’t that suppose to be something to bring people closer? Why does our gathering always end up a competition?
Who brings better food? Who cooks more? Who did lesser work? Who is the “host”? Are these even important?
I can’t help but think, if you aren’t sincere about the event or the person’s (say birthday) then there is no need to hold a huge celebration to “show” you care. If you really care, you can instead, bring her out/have your own celebration with her.
Family meetings should be a pleasure for the whole family.Unfortunately, these things happen. Do not blame yourself, you are too young to be able to solve these problems
I’d like to think so…
but for a family as traditional as mine, a junior doesn’t have ANY rights to question or correct a senior …
It’s a HUGE insult to the senior to be “corrected” by a junior… especially those without their own family
SO, we’re usually very careful with such traditional seniors…
But oh well, still we need to give them time … hopefully everything will work out
Having a celebration with the family means being grateful.
Yes, I hope it turned out this way too… but for my family, it sometimes turn out to be an unhapy event… which defeats the purpose
I am sorry to hear that. I am just being grateful to my immediate family and erased all the evil relatives in our lives at the same time. They are not worth to keep. c”,)
Well, I have been in your situation, and it is not easy. Just be thankful your dysfunctional family is still around to argue with. I have this type of family, but some days are getting better, but still day that aren’t. I love my dysfunctional family lol. Just kill them with kindness, it does help lol
Unfortunately it turned out uglier than it is and now they won’t talk to each other anymore :/
Well I am so sorry about that. Some people have separate holidays because of such actions. Maybe pray about it!
Thanks for the suggestion, LaJenna, but I guess its not up to me to solve this…
The seniors have decided to let it slip … as in just do nothing about since they won’t each other anything soon … I don’t know if it’s good but maybe trying to do anything now is not a good timing as both sides are still very angry
I hope and pray for this situation. They have to do what is best for them. Staying angry too long is not good.
Thank you very much, I hope things will turn better soon too 🙂
family meetings should be a pleasure for the whole family and one should attend it because he enjoys spending time with the family, otherwise the meeting makes no sense.
Yeah…sometimes we are just made to… because of pressure of being talked behind or seen as uncaring …