Carol DM
Mother’s Day is celebrated in the US on tomorrow, Sunday May 13th. I avoid the crowds and restaurants on this day. But it is all good. I stay home and this year I have bluebirds to watch. The only thing I wish could change is for others to realize I am still a Mom. Yes I lost my child, my only child. But that does not change the fact that I am still “Dustin’s Mom”. People still tiptoe around this subject. I understand that. But I need to hear his name. I need to hear Happy Mother’s Day. Not to be avoided or walk on eggshells around.
I am at a better place with the situation after a few years now. But I still wanted to put this message out there for whoever reads it. If you know of a Mom who has lost a child, say her child’s name. Tell her Happy Mother’s Day. She needs to hear those words.
The photo below is on my wall and is a reminder that… “Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.” Such true words. Like I said, we are forever a Mom.
I Am A Mom
But my son is not here
I Am A Mom
Who feels an emptiness
Over and over again
Because I miss my son
And all that could have been
I Am A Mom
Who has precious memories
I Am A Mom
Who Is thankful
For the miracle of birth
And all my son taught me
I Am A Mom
I can never stop being a Mom
Just because my son is not here
The love we had for each other
Will continue forever
On this Mother’s Day
and on every day
I will feel within my heart all the pride,
Love And Joy
Which are the parts that make me who I am
I Am A Mom… I am Dustin’s Forever Mom
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I wrote this poem as I thought about others celebrating Mother’s Day. Yes it is sad but it is how I feel. Even though I may be sad that Dustin is not here, I still would like to wish all of you Mothers and Grandmothers out there a VERY SPECIAL HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY. You are all blessed to have children and grandchildren. Enjoy every single second you have with them.
Beautiful post, and poem… very touching. Happy belated mother’s day.
Thank you Courtney, a difficult day but I try to find my way through somehow.
Happy Mother’s Day, Carol!
Thank you very much.
Much appreciated my friend.
Awe, this is a pretty silhouette, and thank you for reminding people that just because you lost a child, you are still a mom, and you’re the best ever Carol. I had already wished you a Happy Moms day in a previous post, but again. Happy Mother’s Day. Great poem btw.
Thanks Kim, it was a gentle reminder for those who forget. I understand it is hard for others, but I hope in time it will get easier. Enjoy your day my friend!
.. by the way, the photo reminded me so much of me and Dustin. He used to pick me wildflowers. Forgot to add that to the post. Great memories. 🙂
I remember you saying that one day when we were talking about dandelions. : ) So sweet.
Yes, and there are days when everything reminds me of him.
Cherish them, he is probably thinking of you.
I really believe that Kim.
Carol you are an extraordinary person and even though Dustin is not here to wish you his spirit resides in your heart. Maybe it’s just me who believes this, I think that when you mother the nature around your garden you are not doing it alone. Happy Mother’s Day. Keep shining!
While I’m writing this, the song ‘That’s what friends are for’ comes to mind. Cos that’s what you are to nature and all the people you are connected to.
Making me cry Bradley but happy tears that you took the time to write these words. And you are right, I feel like a Bluebird Mom, hummingbird Mom, butterfly Mom, etc. You have made my day my friend. Love that song.
Happy Mother’s Day to you and all the mothers around the globe. c”,)
Thank you Shavkat, very nice.
It was there when I first said my words!
It was there when I took the first step!
She was there when I fell, and she stood me up!
She was there to teach me things that no one else knows!
She was there to encourage me in life!
She was the woman who was always next to me – my mom
Now she is gone but she remains forever my mother.
Happy birthday to mother Carol, your heart is very full of maternal affection. In addition to the sadness in your verse, this great love is greatly expressed.
You are so kind Elenka, this is beautiful. I love each word and will keep it forever.
Happy Mother’s Day to you my dear friend.
Ellie said something the same as I want to say, such a moving post. Besides that, I need to appreciate your lovely poem but especially to say “Happy Mother’s Day, Carol”, you are a great mother!
I am so touched by all of these comments. Thank you Albert, it means more than you know.
I love my mother so much, and I know how our daughters love my wife as much as she loves them too… So I think I know a bit about how you feel as a mother.
That is great Albert. Happy Mother’s Day to all of them.
We are in Indonesia celebrating Mother’s Day on December 22nd.
I’ll tell them your message. Thanks.
It is difficult to keep up with the different countries.
Such a moving post! I also think that being a mother is more than giving birth, it’s about giving love and care. You are a mother in every sense. Happy Mother’s Day!
Oh my Ellie, you are so kind to say that. Thank you my dear friend. And the same to you.
Happy Mother’s Day. I have never been a Mum. Yet my husband always wishes me Happy Mothers Day. Its hard to lose people. As I’ve grown older and done home care, I have lost more people to illness, its not easy at any time.Yet I have some really good friends.
I am sorry Pamela, it is a hard day for many people, she you may never know about.
Good for your husband.
Blessings to you on Mother’s Day.
Much appreciate your comment.
Happy Mother’s day ….I know that your angel Dustin, wants to see a smile on your face
Thank you Branka, I know he does as well.
This poem is one to keep close to your heart on a daily basis. Just heart-warming! Happy Mother’s day always
I do indeed my friend. Happy Mother’s Day to you and your sister.. a day early.