During the first phase of a relationship with a Narcissist, you are idealised. You are made to feel loved beyond all boundaries.
The focus is on you, everything you do and say, as if you are all that exists in the Narcissist’s world.
This excess, this feeling of being so significant and important is vital to put you into a position of vulnerability.
It is very important that you comprehend that the first steps into your life that a narcissist makes are those which make you feel loved beyond all bounds. You feel loved, you feel in control, you feel almost guilty because you can’t love the other as much as it seems you are loved.
This is the first trick. It is done to deceive. It is done to make you believe you have some kind of control.
The purpose is to have you drop your guard, ignore reality, and jump without a parachute.