In the previous two articles I gave an example of how an Abuser will seek to discredit /handicap his Victim, even where he is the one who loses.
For an Abuser to lose property or money or opportunity is minor compared to the need to hurt and demean his Victim.
It is vital that one understands this when dealing with an Abuser, when reflecting on past Abuse. The need for the Abuser to make the Victim ‘lose’ is paramount.
Logic means nothing, finance is unimportant. The need to feel that he is better than the Victim, that he is smarter or more competent is the goal.
When he no longer can beat a Victim, when he no longer has direct access, he will do everything in his power to make her feel that she ‘failed’ that she wasn’t good enough.