Knowing your abuser is like identifying a Narcissist for most Abusers are.
Once one learns the pattern, the behaviours, when encountering a Narcissist at a cocktail party, all that need be done is while he is speaking, is call to another person.
The interruption will chase that Narcissist away.
He will be shocked that you could possibly find another person ‘superior’ to him.
Simply knowing the pattern of a Narcissist, how he views the world, what he expects, and how he sees himself, the simple act of distraction is effective.
Just turning away is more effective in defeating a Narcissist than any assortment of words.
You defeat Abusers by knowing their patterns, and truncating them before they can be put into play.