jaylar
Knowing your abuser is like identifying a Narcissist for most Abusers are.
Once one learns the pattern, the behaviours, when encountering a Narcissist at a cocktail party, all that need be done is while he is speaking, is call to another person.
The interruption will chase that Narcissist away.
He will be shocked that you could possibly find another person ‘superior’ to him.
Simply knowing the pattern of a Narcissist, how he views the world, what he expects, and how he sees himself, the simple act of distraction is effective.
Just turning away is more effective in defeating a Narcissist than any assortment of words.
You defeat Abusers by knowing their patterns, and truncating them before they can be put into play.
No, I cannot imagine that happening at all.
It is not the first time a Narcissist has selected me. Maybe I have a kind face or look squishy or something.
I have had family members that I no long associate with, sadly.
I can say the same. I can not see how hurting/abusing/denigrating a relative gives pleasure… but they do.
I will not tolerate such people in my life.
Exactly. I have become so sensitive to narcissists that I can define them at a distance and keep the distance
Same here, they are a breed I stay away from.
Can you vision being at a cocktail party, way over there, and this chap comes over, sits down and starts the I I I chant? He’s giving me his biography and I am like… oh another evening spoiled, so I call to a passing chap. And Mr. I I I disappears.