When you escape an Abusive relationship, and examine it, you gain a kind of power you didn’t know existed.
Firstly, you see through your Abuser and everyone like him as if they are glass. You pick up the patterns, the progressions, as if you are hearing music.
When you are alert to beats and notes and rhythm you will hear more.
Although your ears are not gathering any more sound your brain is making connections.
Just as you can hear a bass you will ‘hear’ the pattern in the abuse.
If you encounter your Abuser later in life, it is hard not to laugh when you see the ‘performance’.
While I was in a horrible marriage I got help to fight back and I stood up to him and knew it was garbage he was saying to me.