Many times a person leaves an abusive relationship and doesn’t really analyse it.
Analysis is necessary.
Firstly, one needs to see how it was done, and how one was made to feel as s/he felt.
Did you feel you deserved it? Did you criticise yourself? Do you find fault with your actions so as to make the Abuser right?
This is not a shrug. This is not to be rushed by. This is to regain yourself.
This is to be able to trust your gut. Be able to see how someone ‘played’ you, how you let them.
Think of the many explanations, excuses, you gave yourself. See how and why, and you can ‘patch’ those soft spots.